9 taboos of successful people

January 1, 2015 15:38

Successful people never gossip, are late, get angry, interrupt others or think one thing and say another.

Steve Jobs và Bill Gates là những doanh nhân thành công điển hình. Ảnh: LinkedIn
Steve Jobs and Bill Gates are typical successful entrepreneurs. Photo: LinkedIn

1. Let the past decide the future

Everyone has limitations and challenges to face. Therefore, mistakes are inevitable, Inc commented. However, the key to success is to learn from your mistakes, not let them hinder your growth.

Of course, "Easier said than done." However, it all depends on your perspective. When something bad happens, see it as an opportunity to learn something you didn't know, especially about yourself. And when someone makes a mistake, see it as an opportunity to show tolerance and generosity.

Everything in the past is just a training course. Highly successful people believe that the past helps them become more experienced and knowledgeable, but it cannot say anything about who they are.

2. Gossip

It's hard to resist your own curiosity, such as finding out the reasons behind someone's decisions, the motives of those around you, or simply "is this guy really dating that girl?".

The problem is, you can't stay out of the gossip circle. And sometimes the gossip isn't very nice.

So, when you want to gossip about someone, think carefully about whether you can say it directly to that person instead of talking behind their back. And if someone starts to gossip about others, don't hesitate to apologize and leave immediately. Don't think that it is disrespectful to the person who is gossiping, because gossipers have no respect for others.

For successful people, when they want to share information on the sidelines, they will speak publicly.

3. Say "yes" when you mean "no"

Saying no to an offer from a colleague, a client, or even a friend can be difficult. But in reality, saying no is not as bad as you think. Most people will understand, and if they are being deliberately ignorant, should you care too much about what they think?

Saying “no” only makes you feel bad for a moment. On the other hand, if you force yourself to say yes to something you really don’t want to do, the bad feeling will stay with you for a long time, or at least for as long as it takes to complete the thing you didn’t want to do.

Successful people know how to say “no” when they need to. They are even very good at saying no. Because they know that it helps them focus on doing what needs to be done for themselves and others.

4. Interrupting others

The essence of interrupting someone is, "I don't care what you're saying. I'm just thinking about what I'm going to say. It's so important that you need to hear it right now." If you want better relationships, learn to listen to others, and then ask questions to show that you understand. Successful people are always willing to learn from listening to others' thoughts.

5. Late

Whenever you arrive late, the other people will immediately think, "Do you think your time is more important than ours?" Of course, this will destroy your chances of building good relationships, whether at work or personally.

You are late because you allow yourself to be. Successful people often start their day earlier than everyone else. Even though they are early, they never worry about wasting time. Because they have planned ahead and will take advantage of that time to complete small tasks. That helps them not only reduce stress but also understand the problem better, be more creative, decisive and proactive.

6. Resentment

The late South African president Nelson Mandela once said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies.” So are anger, jealousy, and envy. With malice and malice, the only person who loses is you.

The secret to success is to focus your energy on what you are going to do instead of worrying about what others have done.

7. Thinking you lack time

With the same 24 hours in a day, some people get more done than others. So what is the secret? Do they just throw themselves into work and have no time to enjoy life?

In fact, their lives are great. They know what's important and work to make it happen, while pushing aside all the trivial things.

God gives everyone the same amount of time, but the difference lies in how we use it. Successful people are those who know how to use their time on important things.

8. Follow everyone else

In life, no one really likes you because of the clothes you wear, the car you drive, the house you live in, or even the job title. All of those things are just external things and even if people like them, it doesn’t mean they like you.

Successful people believe that "always be yourself" even though they know that being different can make them lose a lot of acquaintances. They understand that living simply as themselves will help them have true friends.

9. Afraid to do difficult things

The saying “The only thing to fear is fear itself” is quite true. However, from another perspective, perhaps a better saying would be “The only thing to fear is ourselves”. We are always afraid of what will or will not happen, afraid of what we cannot change, afraid of what we are not capable of doing, and afraid of what others think of us.

That fear makes us hesitate, indecisive, always waiting for the "right moment". And so time passes. So do our dreams.

Never let fear hold you back. Whatever plan you have, whatever vision you have, whatever dream you have, begin today.

The secret to success is to put your fear aside and start doing what you want, so that you don't have to look back and say "If only".

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