Trang Ha: Where have all the good men gone?

- Where have all the good men gone in life? Where are your three words “I love you!”?

I have girlfriends who are almost forty years old but have never been in love in their lives. Or rather, have never been confessed to by anyone.

In high school, you didn't dare to say anything about your boyfriend in class. In college, sometimes when you met friends from other schools, you would usually sit among your close girlfriends. At work, you noticed your boss, but he had a wife and children. Other than him, all your colleagues seemed childish and bland.

Where have all the good single men gone? (Photo: Green Tea)

People get married one after another, before and after thirty. At that age, you pack your bags and go to study abroad, get acquainted with a group of people who are also studying abroad because they are not married yet, and you see that a free, single life is a wise choice.

You didn’t plan to marry a Westerner, so studying abroad was a collection of coffee shops and bookstores abroad, without ever falling in love. After five or seven years, you felt bored and returned home. You had a lot of cute, trendy, and fashionable things but didn’t know what to do with them. When you returned to Vietnam, you became the foster mother of a bunch of kids, the kids of your college classmates. Every time Tet comes, you busily prepare lucky money envelopes for your kids who aren’t yours.

Suddenly, you have a dream of conquering Tibet, you quickly set off with a group of people you met online. After the trip, you suddenly become enlightened both physically and mentally, diligently study Yoga along with a series of books on astrology, the more you read, the more you are interested, suddenly wondering why you were not interested in traveling and mystical science before?

And every morning when you get to work, the first thing you do is open the electronic newspaper. Then you browse through a few blogs or Facebook pages of your friends and acquaintances. Sometimes there is an article that makes you stop for a long time:

A construction company won the project bid. How long ago did this director sleep next to his slippers, by the campfire of his student days?

(Long enough for a young and immature boy to become a successful and serious man. Just not to become a part of you.)

The sales manager of a company was interviewed about a customer complaint. This girl was so dumb back then, it turns out her father was the former vice president of the parent company. What a son of a boss!

(You find many more reasons that keep you sitting at this table, in front of this computer, opening the electronic newspaper every morning to read!)

English school recruiting and tuition discounts. This guy used to hang around on forums and argue a few times.

(He has now embarked on his own career, you still sit and reminisce about those past times.)

Leave the screen, go outside to make a few phone calls, return to your seat. Open a familiar website again.

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Where is the man who is both romantic and financially independent? (Photo: Green Tea)

Where is there a love like you dream of? Where is there a flawless man? A man who is willing to let you love and love you, meeting all the needs you want in a man?

At fifteen, I was moved by every boyfriend who proposed to me. It didn't matter who he was, what his personality was, or what his family background was. He just had to be good at studying.

Twenty years old, love absolute romance. Willing to abandon a suitor just because he doesn't know how to give you the flowers you like. And whoever speaks sweet words will have your heart.

At thirty, I need a man who is both romantic and financially independent, and who knows how to deal with internal and external affairs and win over my friends and relatives.

Forty seems to be more complicated, not only romantic, financially independent, well-mannered, but also knowledgeable, aware of current social events, with good taste, not patriarchal, known by name and face on the Internet. And most importantly, never married.

I wonder what the ideal lover of a fifty-year-old would be like?

Why are good men always married? (Photo: Green Tea)

You don’t realize that the ideal man of your forties is the childish boy of your twenties, the thirty-year-old struggling to make a living and establish himself that you left behind. You have never had anyone love you simply because you never gave that childish boy a chance to propose.

Because all the perfect, good things in this life do not always come in a gorgeous package. So you have passed by a good man just because he is not attractive, not handsome, not sweet-talking, not able to please you, not radiating the aura of success and wealth at the time you met him.

The thoughtful and sincere guy can be a very clumsy person, unable to guess what kind of flowers you like, what kind of promises you like, what kind of compliments you like. So you leave him behind in your twenties.

A successful man can start his journey to adulthood as an arrogant boy, delusional about himself, so he only pursues the goal of affirming his huge ego day and night. He rushes with every opportunity that comes his way. You see, how can a strange, difficult to talk to, arrogant person be worthy of your love?

A good husband who loves his wife and children, is attentive to housework, and knows how to help you, can be a absent-minded, poor, sloppy, ugly man who drives an old car, is a heavy smoker, and knows nothing about movies and rising singers. Therefore, you will miss out on a good husband right from the first meeting.

And while you are disappointed with the present, you still sob at the wonderful movies with guys who are handsome, flirtatious, loyal, passionately in love with their girlfriends, talented, successful, and willing to sacrifice themselves to please their girlfriends. You sadly think, where have the good men gone in life? Where are your three words “I love you!”? Why are good men always married? Where have all the good single men gone?

They don't go anywhere, they're always there for you, from when you're fifteen until you're forty, fifty.

You just don't realize who they are!

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