6 sentences that ruin your marriage

"It's my fault", "I always", "I never"... these firm statements always make the listener very uncomfortable.

When we argue, it’s easy to let harsh words slip out of our mouths. You know you didn’t mean it, and even though your partner knows it’s not what you really meant, they still feel upset and hurt.

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Here are six phrases you should never say during an argument, as listed by Popsugar, because they are like spells that destroy marriages:

1. Whatever

Passive healing is one of the most unhealthy aspects of a marriage. It may be helpful in the moment, but later on, it leaves people ruminative and resentful.

2. It's my fault

Whether it was the person's responsibility or not, blaming others never works.

3. I don't want to talk about it right now.

If you want to avoid an argument, you are making a mistake by using this phrase. If you think it will be more effective to discuss it later, use a different phrase. You need to make it clear that just because you want to discuss the issue later doesn’t mean it isn’t important to you now.

4. Just do whatever you want

Obviously you don't want what your partner is doing and the "war" hasn't started yet. However, saying this during an argument is like inviting them to do it and making the situation worse.

5. "I never" or "I always"

You are wrong here again. “Never” or “Always” are rarely a true measure and only show that you are exaggerating in your assessment of your partner.

6. You are really + a derogatory adjective (e.g. You are so sloppy, You are so shabby)

A hurtful comment can be more damaging than an argument. Even after things have been resolved, your partner will remember how hurt they were by your comment. Remember to be respectful even during the most heated of arguments.

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