7 misconceptions about marriage that make women dizzy

June 14, 2017 20:18

There are 'formulas for maintaining family happiness' that you have long taken for granted. However, with modern perspectives, these thoughts are outdated and even counterproductive.

1. Never lie to your spouse

The truth is, everyone lies. Staying silent and not saying certain things is also considered lying. Sometimes, avoiding mentioning an irreversible fact can save both parties from feeling uncomfortable.

Take your partner's health condition. It's better to lie about your partner's critical health than to be honest. Or if you know your partner is a frugal person, you can lie about the price of a product you "accidentally" bought.

This way you can avoid feeling "heartbroken" for your partner, and avoid feeling unhappy for both of you. Sometimes lying is as necessary as telling the truth.

2. The wife must appear weak to make the husband strong.

Obviously, many women are trying to do this to protect their marriage. In fact, trying to act like a weak woman who has to rely on her husband can make men feel discouraged and tired. Remember that you are marrying an adult, a completely independent person. Don't turn yourself into a capricious child, just be yourself. When you are yourself, your partner will find you attractive and want to explore more.

3. Don't use sex to make up

You can make up in any way you like. Sometimes the reason for the disagreement is small and intimate things will be a good way to resolve it. Don't pretend to ignore this good tip.

4. Always make time for each other

Not really! For many people, free time is a great opportunity to be alone, to live in their own world, to regenerate and be inspired strongly without wanting any attention. So, if you can enjoy relaxing time without your partner, do it. Spending time together is important but you should only do it when you really want to. Quality is more important than quantity.

5. Find an activity you can both do together.

Experts often recommend this. It’s a good thing because it’s what binds you together. But sometimes it’s not. There’s nothing worse than forcing your partner to do what you want. If he doesn’t like going to the theater and you don’t like sports, you can both do what you want. That way, you’ll both feel better and it will actually improve the atmosphere in your home.

6. Don't argue about small things

It's okay to argue, sometimes it helps you understand each other better. You don't have to hold back your anger. If you do, one day a small disagreement will turn into a big conflict. Speak up about what you're unhappy about. When you speak honestly, you'll soon find that many seemingly "taboo" topics can be brought up gently and resolved peacefully.

7. Resolve marital problems immediately

Many people take this too seriously. They think that if a conflict cannot be resolved immediately, it will flare up the next day. Persistence will only make the relationship worse. Therefore, some couples spend too much time questioning each other about who is right and who is wrong... while others rush to seek advice from counselors or others. But the most important thing when a relationship is not going well is to relax, let go of the problems and avoid creating new problems. That way, you won't feel like you need a "referee".

According to Giadinh.net

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