Some mistakes of parents prevent children from going far

School grades only have immediate value, your child's real knowledge, attitude, behavior... are what will help him succeed later.

As an education expert, in the process of working with students from kindergarten to university as well as parents, Dr. Vu Thu Huong realized that some parents often only care about the present and rarely look to their children's future.

1. Force your child to eat to get fat and chubby

Mothers who force-feed their children to make them fat and chubby only think about their child’s present image and not their future. Mothers should remember that if your child is too fat, he or she will certainly be at risk of many diseases.Actually, the most important thing is your child's height and health. If your child continues to grow steadily and rarely gets sick, then you've done the right thing.

2. Forbid children from going out to avoid getting sick

This is also because parents only care about the present and do not look to the future. We cannot keep our children locked up at home forever. Therefore, it is important to let them get used to the outside environment as soon as possible. They will get sick and get better after a little fever. Playing is also the best way for children to absorb knowledge. If they are kept at home forever, they will become weaker and weaker.

3. Forcing children to study from preschool age

Preschool is the age to learn skills and behavior. Forcing children to learn letters early does not guarantee that they will be better than others in the future, but it will waste their time learning skills. Later, when they grow up, their skills will help them succeed, and their good attitudes and behavior will help them be loved. Therefore, parents need to consider carefully before forcing preschool children to learn cultural knowledge.

Preschool is the stage when children learn skills, not cultural knowledge - Photo: teachaway

4. Too concerned about your child's school grades

Scores only have immediate value. After 10 or 20 years, no one will care about your scores anymore. Your true value, your real knowledge, your proficient skills, your attitude and behavior are what will make you who you are in the future. These are also the things that you live by, build your life and find your place.

If parents only care about grades, they will gradually miss important moments of teaching their children. Knowledge can be learned throughout life, but skills and attitudes must be formed from a young age. Letting children learn when they are older is both difficult and ineffective.

5. Running after excellent student exams

Each excellent student exam has only immediate value.After 5 years, that award is no longer important. After 20 years, many people no longer want to talk about the awards they won in their youth. Each exam has no lasting value. It is just something we can show off to each other immediately. If you focus too much on exams, you risk missing out on other, more important things.

6. Talking negatively in front of your child

During family meals, to relieve stress, parents talk about negative things in society, badmouth this person or that person... Children are very quick information receivers. Are parents building their children's confidence in life or have they created children whose heads are filled with negative thoughts, boredom and fatigue?

I teach children and see many children who are very mischievous, nosy and lack trust in others. When something happens, big or small, they immediately doubt each other and adults (teachers, parents). With such a lack of trust and negative thoughts, will they really want to live when they grow up, dare to contribute and dare to do their best for a certain aspiration?

Thinking about the future when raising children is extremely important. If we always ask ourselves: With the way we raise our children now, what will they be like in 10-20 years, then we will definitely choose the most appropriate direction to raise our children./.

According to VNE