Why does everyone have a place to live while you are still called a 'leftover girl'?

Many people think that being a "leftover woman" is due to fate's unfavorable treatment. But in fact, everything that happens in life originates from you.

7. You still have the shadow of your "ex" in your heart

Think about whether you are really looking for a lover/partner, wanting to enter a relationship or just trying to prove yourself to “someone”. “Someone” could be an ex, an ex-spouse or someone you have a crush on but can’t get close to.

If so, this action will of course lead you nowhere and cause a lot of suffering. There will definitely be a distance between you and the "chosen one" because no one is happy to be a replacement or a means to make your ex jealous. The best thing you can do when you are still thinking about someone is to give yourself more time, calm down and try to understand what you really want. Don't be an unwilling "leftover girl" for too long.

6. You have too many expectations

Every girl likes and has the right to dream of finding a prince, and every boy also wants to find the perfect girl to be his wife. However, between dreams and real life with real people is a different story.

Want to find the perfect partner? First, look at yourself. What do you look like? What can you offer your partner? Will he/she be happy and satisfied when being with you?

Understand that the prince will only marry the princess. Cinderella can also marry the prince, but only when she has perfected herself from within. In other words, if you want to be with someone with excellent qualities, then you must have the equivalent first, you cannot demand or expect blindly.

5. You dream about "flowers that already have owners"

In this case, the most suitable advice for you is: It's best not to waste your energy and time! Of course, anything can happen in life. Of course, we shouldn't judge anyone because "love has no fault".

But what do you think when a person who once cheated becomes your other half? Don't try to tell yourself that you are better than his/her "other half", and you are confident that you can make him/her loyal, change in a positive direction? Even if you successfully go from "the third party" to "the main wife", you will still be tortured by the doubts you created yourself. At that time, you will almost always wonder if you are being deceived by the other person.

4. You are caught between "prejudice" and lack of confidence

"All men in this world are the same!", or"Women are all the same!"- This is exactly what we often hear from both sexes. Stereotypes and stereotypes have some truth in them but not all. Because you often remind yourself to be suspicious and cautious with new acquaintances, your relationships are also limited. Don't forget that in life there are no shortage of good people or happy couples. Why don't you believe that you will become one of them?

3. You fear responsibility and commitment

You say you want to love and get married, but deep inside you are afraid of losing your freedom and of having to take on the responsibilities of a serious relationship. This fear creates an invisible wall around you, depriving you of the opportunity to learn and be learned by others.

How do you change this situation? There is no exact solution but like the previous "symptoms", get into the habit of looking at the positives and relaxing yourself.

2. You don't dare to be yourself when interacting with others.

You want to find a lover, a life partner but do not dare to reveal your exact appearance, personality, views,... So you create a perfect, sparkling virtual shell. It is not difficult for the other person to recognize this fakeness, and if they do not recognize it, the relationship will not last long. It is best not to do anything if you feel uncomfortable. Be yourself first!

1. You are impatient so you want to rush things.

Right when you first met, talked, and didn't know much about each other, you confidently shared your vision of your wedding, your list of names you want for your children, or jumped into his/her arms? This makes your partner feel scared and skeptical about your true intentions. Even if you were "struck by lightning" right when you first met, you should let the relationship progress slowly instead of "burning the stage".

According to afamily.vn