13 things happy people never do.

Worried about belly fat

According to RD,We are bombarded with images of ideal bodies that sometimes leave us feeling hopeless about our own bodies. But the key to happiness isn't changing your body until it's perfect, it's learning to love your flaws, says psychologist Dr.Erin Olivo, Columbia University said.

"I ask my patients to make a list of things that make them feel valuable and worthy of love. Looks are almost never on that list. But when I ask them to list things that make them feel unworthy of happiness, looks are at the top of the list," he says.So the important thing to realize is: Happiness does not depend on looks.

"Cold War" with others

When hurt, it is natural to want to shrink, but unhappy people often punish others with coldness and silence. While the secret of happiness is conversation. "Everyone is afraid of being hated, but happy people know how to ask for love," said Dr.“Even if you don’t get the answer you want, you’ll discover that your fear of not being loved isn’t as terrible as you thought, and that has the power to heal,” he says.

Repeating mistakes

Everyone makes mistakes, but the difference is in learning from them and avoiding them. Most of us cling to bad habits even though we know they are harmful to us in the long run. The only way to move forward is to overcome the barriers and correct the mistakes we have made.

So afraid of failure that they don't dare to act.

Perfectionism and fear of failure are a common pairing for unhappy people. Happy people may be afraid to try new things or take risks, but they understand that overcoming these things will bring them closer to success.

Delay until the last minute

Putting off doing difficult things might feel good in the short term, but it's harmful in the long run. "Commit to focusing on a task for just 15 minutes, then take a break if you need to,"Often, you won't need to take a break and continue working after overcoming the initial hesitation, advises Hoan Do, a life and success coach.

Always think of yourself as a victim

Maybe other people make mistakes or treat you badly, but happy people do not like to play the victim. They do not blame others, but take responsibility for themselves because they know they make choices and have the power to solve problems that arise.

Take all opinions seriously

You don't have to believe everything people say, especially when they say it about you. Only take advice from people you admire and want to be in their shoes.

Not asking "why" before starting a job

How many times have you done something simply because you were asked to do it? Happy people understand the deeper purpose of what they do and are consistent with their goals. As a result, they put their full energy into it, easily overcome difficulties, and enjoy more joy in work and life.

Lost hope

When faced with a storm, you can focus on the storm that is surrounding you or you can look forward to a brighter tomorrow. The former will leave you feeling trapped and drained, while the latter will give you the motivation to keep going. Never give up hope.

Need to be loved by everyone

It may sound nice to be liked by everyone you meet, but in reality, it is evidence that you are a people pleaser and too focused on what others think. To be truly happy, you must accept yourself first and understand that it is okay for some people to dislike you.

Not caring about one's health

The health of the body and mind are inseparable, so if you want to feel happy, you need to take good care of yourself. That doesn't mean you have to strive for standards like a six-pack body, smooth skin... Instead, happy people will spend time taking care of themselves by eating healthy and exercising.

Forget the joys you have

One of the best things you can do to feel happier immediately is to forget about what you want and focus on being grateful for what you have. This is a scientifically proven secret to a happy life.

Cross off your bucket list

Creating a list of places you want to go, things you want to learn, and things you want to achieve will help you visualize what you want your life to be like and what you need to do to achieve it. Many people spend their whole lives confused because they don't know what they want.

Wang Ling