Khanh Thi felt sad when her husband's dance partner was young and handsome.
The Dancesport champion shared that after giving birth to her second child, her body became flabby so she had to work hard to be worthy of her husband who is 12 years younger.
- How has your married life changed since having a daughter?
- I gave birth to my daughter Anna in August last year. She was born a month and a half early, so her health was poor. Since birth, Anna had to stay in the nursery for 21 days. Now, her health has stabilized. However, she still needs a special diet, which is not as easy as Ku Bi. Therefore, my husband and I have to limit our work and spend time with our child. I am lucky to have the support of my grandparents, so raising my child is less difficult. Ku Bi also loves his younger sister very much. However, she is still young, sometimes thinking she is a doll, rubbing and shaking her a bit too hard. My family always has to watch her carefully when she plays with her younger sister.
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Khanh Thi and Phan Hien couple and their son and daughter. |
- What pressure did you face during your second birth?
- During pregnancy and childbirth, I gained more than ten kilos, my body was flabby and not toned. Many times, I felt very sorry for myself. I put pressure on myself, forcing myself to lose weight. I went to the gym and returned to Dancesport. Many days, I danced in the gym alone, without turning on the air conditioner. Seeing myself in the mirror, I became more determined. When I thought of my husband practicing with a young and beautiful dance partner in the next room, I couldn't help but feel sad. However, that helped me try harder. After a short time, I quickly got back in shape. Currently, I don't dare to neglect myself. As a teacher and an artist, I always want to appear with a beautiful image.
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Son Ku Bi and daughter Anna of Khanh Thi, Phan Hien. |
- How did your husband share with you?
- My husband has one advantage: he always compliments his wife on her beauty. When a man still loves you, he will find you adorable. We are 12 years apart in age, and we have different interests and aesthetic tastes, but my husband always tries to understand me.
For example, I like listening to lyrical songs with subtle lyrics, watching romantic movies with hidden meanings. Meanwhile, my husband likes listening to the vibrant music of Son Tung M-TP, Chi Pu, and watching action movies. Recently, I have been listening to the songs my husband likes and find them good. The lyrics of these songs are straightforward, direct, true to the way young people live and express their feelings. Upbeat music also helps me reduce stress. My husband also tried watching the movies I like and gradually found sympathy. We have many common topics to discuss, thereby becoming more connected.
- Last year, you said you would get married when your son was older. How is that plan going so far?
- Currently, I affirm that I will not get married. Many times, my husband and I sat down to discuss how to organize the wedding, who to invite, and what to prepare. Sometimes, I told my husband: "Oh my God, how can people import tens of thousands of fresh flowers for the party. It's too expensive. Guests sometimes don't even touch the flowers to know if they are beautiful, fragrant, and valuable. They just come and take a few photos." Other times, I thought: "Many people hold wedding parties with a menu full of expensive dishes, but relatives and friends only eat a few bites and then leave. Let's not waste it like that!". My husband agreed. When planning the wedding, we realized that everything was too cumbersome and complicated, so we became more and more lazy.
My life is very fulfilling, I am happy with my husband, son and daughter. My in-laws also love and respect our private lives. I feel fulfilled, I have no more desire. At 38 years old, I no longer dream of wearing a wedding dress. What is important is how we treat each other. We also did not register our marriage, not because we do not trust each other but because we feel it is unnecessary. Children are the greatest common asset, we both raise and educate them. That is the core value of married life.
- What are your plans for the future?
- Next year, my husband's parents will let us live separately. Our house is being completed. Actually, I live very comfortably with my husband's family and am pampered. Even though I live separately, I still visit them often and ask them to help take care of the children. In about one or two years, when my health is stable and my daughter is stronger, I will have a third child. I still think the youngest will be a boy, so I save Ku Bi's clothes for him.
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Regarding work, I continue to operate and develop the Dancesport center. My husband helps me with professional matters and focuses on competing in domestic and international tournaments. We hope that this year, Phan Hien will be selected to participate in the Sea Games. In addition, my colleagues Chi Anh and Hong Viet are campaigning to establish the Vietnam Dance Sports Federation. Currently, the Dancesport department is still under the Vietnam Gymnastics Federation. Having its own organization will help the department develop commensurate with its potential.
Khanh Thi was born in 1981 in Hanoi. Her parents were artists of the General Political Department Art Troupe. She had a beautiful love affair with her colleague Chi Anh. They broke up in 2009. After that, Khanh Thi fell in love with Phan Hien - a student 12 years her junior. The couple had a son, Ku Bi, in 2015 and a daughter, Anna, last year.