6 principles to help you be happy no matter who you marry
Marriage is a happy experience you should have, but not a duty you have to fulfill, so don't get married because of pressure.
A person can love once in a lifetime, or many times, as long as you give that love to the right person. These tips will help you be happy no matter who you marry.
1. Don't rush into marriage
Don't be impulsive because of pressure from others, let this be your decision alone.
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| Just feel like getting married, no age to get married. Photo: Wallpaperup |
2. Economic independence
If you get married, don't give up your career easily, don't easily believe the phrase "I'll support you". It's hard to imagine the consequences of this. In a marriage, only by maintaining economic independence can you become strong and have more say.
It doesn't matter how much you earn, but you must have a fixed amount of money that you make. Marriage requires two people to work together and go through life's ups and downs together.
3. Tolerance and patience
Even in a happy marriage, there will certainly be conflicts. Anger and arguments are common in marriage, not because of the end of love. On the positive side, marriage is when both partners get used to expressing themselves to each other. Only when standing in front of the most beloved person, people allow themselves to be impulsive and childish. So don't be afraid of arguments. Often, it is these conflicts that help the two of you understand each other more deeply.
However, if you want to keep your marriage strong, you need to be calm. Don't ruin your relationship because of a swear word, don't easily hurt the heart of the person you love because of a cold face, insisting on right and wrong, and don't turn your words into harsh, sharp words that stab the person you love, just like stabbing yourself... Remember, home is not a place to argue about who is right and who is wrong, home is a place to talk about love.
4. Be grateful and listen
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| Listening to your partner is also the secret to a happy marriage. Photo: Rawpixel |
No one is born to be good to anyone. A wife is never a free babysitter, nor is she a reproductive machine. A husband is not the sole breadwinner of a family.
Don't worry about who takes care of the family more, who makes more money, please remember that everything you do is for this little family. Only when you truly see each other's efforts, acknowledge and thank each other's contributions can this marriage last.
In addition, in marriage there must always be "one person willing to speak, one person willing to listen". Don't be perfunctory, don't be indifferent to your partner.
5. Create a little surprise
Don't give up on romance no matter how busy you are. Remember your anniversaries and prepare a small surprise for your loved one. No need for expensive gifts, the most important thing is how you express your love. A well-prepared breakfast, a clean house... is enough to warm each other's hearts.
6. Never give up on loving yourself
Learn to love yourself before loving someone else. Never be ashamed of yourself, never hurt yourself. When you are too tired, give yourself a chance to breathe.
Don't divorce easily, but don't be afraid of divorce, this is not shameful. In this world, there is always a smoother road to go, there will be better people waiting for you.
No matter how busy and how bad your life is, you have to take care of your body and mind every day. And don't put limits on your life, don't give up on self-development, only when you invest more in yourself, you will be happier.