MC Thao Van talks about her efforts in her relationship with her ex-husband

We have to accept that, whether we like it or not, everything is over.

- Lately, audiences rarely see MC Thao Van hosting TV shows. Is the reason because she is busy with work at the University or does she want to give the stage to young people?

I am currently instructingLate night storiesandListen to your body. Actually, apart from being busy with work, I think that for TV shows and any art program, young MCs are necessary. "When the bamboo gets old, young bamboos grow", "when the teacher is old, the singer is young" - the old people used to say, I am "gradually retiring" and it is true. At this age, still hosting a program is rare compared to my peers. So I host whatever is suitable, otherwise I don't.

- You are one of the few celebrities who maintain good relationships with your ex-husband, your ex-husband's wife and your son's grandparents. How do you maintain these relationships?

Actually, to maintain relationships with people who have passed in life, requires accepting things as they are, knowing how to let go and trying very hard.

The way to maintain these relationships is the spirit of building from each person and it will be very simple if we always try. Of course there are times like this and times like that, when it is difficult or not as expected, but with the perspective from the beginning, I can overcome it all. As I said: You have to know how to accept, whether you like it or not, everything will pass. Absolutely do not hold on to negative emotions because it will tire you and others.

Instead of bothering and making things difficult for each other, making both sides suffer, why don't we let go and accept the fact that we used to belong to each other. Now, even though that is no longer the case, let's respect and treat each other as best we can.

Of course it is not always easy to do, but once you get over it, you will see that this is not a terrible thing. Consider this a normal relationship in life, especially when it is someone you have known, loved, and cared for. There is no reason to break it. Therefore, I am always in the spirit of trying and building good things.

With Tit's grandparents, I always visit and share. Now that he has grown up, he visits them on my behalf, and is present on important days and anniversaries of his paternal family. With Ly's father (NSND Cong Ly - PV), he often comes to take care of, show concern and encourage him.

Don't try to keep your child with you.

- To you, your son Gia Bao (Tit) is the most precious gift, and he is your only child. Many mothers do not want their sons to be far away from them (for example, to study abroad) because they cannot be close to them, and they are also worried that their sons will have to take care of themselves. What about you?

No mother wants to be away from her child, everyone wants their child to be within sight. That is a very natural feeling. If in the future, my child goes to study abroad, I think it is also normal. We need to learn to accept the reality of life, everything goes on and changes every day. The child is also grown up, can not be in the mother's arms forever. But being far away does not mean not being able to love, not being able to care. Each person will know how to care and love their child appropriately.

There are children who do not want to be away from their parents, but there are also young people who can only develop their strengths by living independently.

So instead of trying to keep your child with you, let them fly to new lands. Remember when we were young, would we ever trade our jobs, our current lives and many other things to live with our parents? Probably not, right?

- What about your son makes you feel secure and insecure?

Because he is an only child, Tit is spoiled and not very diligent. This makes me a bit worried. However, even if he is lazy, I have never had to worry about his meals or rest because Tit does all his own personal things. So when he moves out, he has to deal with the happiness and suffering himself.

What reassures me is that although Tit may seem indifferent, he is very thoughtful, even much more mature than his age. He is conscious, observant, knows how to treat others, clearly distinguishes between good and bad, has a kind heart and cares for everyone. Later, when he lives alone, he will know how to be independent and live appropriately.

- You are one of the MCs who is quite open-minded when it comes to sharing pictures of your child and messages between you two on social media. Has Tit ever expressed any concerns about this?

When Tit was little, he once seemed unhappy when I posted his pictures online. From then on, I learned my lesson. From then on, I only shared pictures of Tit on social media with his consent.

Looking for a kind and responsible man

- You once shared: "Whatever happens, just accept it calmly. Being a single mother is not such a terrible thing." Many female audiences look to you as a mirror to be stronger and more determined in life. Can you share more about the stories they have shared with you?

I have received many messages from audiences of different ages sharing about their situations, asking for advice on relationships with family or ex-husbands...

I listen to their stories, put myself in their shoes to empathize and find the answer. In fact, it is difficult to apply my story to others, because each person has a different situation, fate, personality, and perspective.

I only give advice from an objective perspective, appropriate to that situation as well as the general situation. The right to choose or decide is up to the individual, I do not decide for anyone.

Being a single mother is not a terrible thing, no one wants this but if you fall into that situation, accept it and calmly overcome it.

- You have a close relationship with artists Tra My and Thanh Thanh Hien, both of whom are single. Do lonely women seek each other out to multiply their joy and halve their sadness... What do you say about your two close friends?

I am close friends with Tra My and Thanh Thanh Hien not because I am lonely but because we find in each other a harmony of soul and emotion.

The two sisters always take care of and love themselves and their family. If you see how My takes care of her family and her son or see Thanh Thanh Hien teach and share about her two daughters, you will understand why I love them so much.

Because besides being artists, they are truly kind, decent, and decent women that I can share with. We find common ground and the same views on life and raising children.

-Tit is a smart and thoughtful boy who hopes his mother can find new happiness. What kind of man will make your heart flutter again?

Tit is a very mature boy, always hoping for his mother's new happiness. As for me, I don't ask for anything too fancy. First of all, he must be a kind, caring, considerate and responsible person.

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