Being a single mother: the pros and cons?

Being a single mother is neither something to be celebrated nor something to be ashamed of; it's simply about taking pride in the love you have for the child you've given birth to.

A young woman in the prime of her life, full of dreams and aspirations for a bright future, why would she push herself down such a difficult path? Why would she let herself suffer amidst countless hardships, bearing the burden of childbirth alone? My friend answered me like this during a conversation: “Many people say I’m crazy, some even question my sexuality. They say I’m making myself miserable. I’m educated, have a decent career, I’m beautiful, I’ve achieved success and fame… I should be in love with and marry a man worthy of me to make my life worthwhile. But I ask myself, what does it mean to live a worthwhile life? What does it mean to love a man who is equally qualified? Shouldn’t we all decide and bear the responsibility for our own lives?”

A single mother is highly respectable because, in addition to her strength of character, she also possesses a great sense of responsibility.

My friend has been a single mom for two years now. Her child is not only developing physically but also possesses exceptional cognitive abilities and personality. Raising an independent, confident, and knowledgeable child in an environment filled with scrutiny, suspicion, criticism, and exclusion is truly difficult. She must have endured immense pressure from public opinion. Fortunately, she has the support of her family; her parents love the child and trust her choice. Even so, to maintain such a strong mindset, I believe she must have a powerful belief and boundless love for her child. A mother's love is the key to unlocking any door that separates her from life.

Being a single mother abroad isn't something new or extraordinary. In Vietnam, it's become quite common in the last two years. I don't know how many Vietnamese women are single mothers. But for whatever reason, whether it's unavoidable or a choice, I want to offer these women my sympathy and respect. Of course, I'm not advocating for creating a motherhood trend like a fashion, because motherhood, for any purpose, isn't as easy or simple as putting on a trendy outfit without knowing if it suits you, only to suddenly get bored and want to abandon your responsibility when that trend fades.

Being a mother, even with the support of a husband, is still very difficult. Being a single mother requires nerves of steel to consistently raise and protect your child, and to provide double the love of someone who is both mother and father. However, I believe that the reason you choose to be a single mother is less important than whether you feel ready to live independently and are happy with your choice, and whether you choose it out of love for your child. If you feel that your desire to be a single mother is to express dissatisfaction, seek revenge, or prove your worth to men, then the worst thing isn't what others say, but what comes from within yourself.

Motherhood is difficult but it's the most wonderful experience in a woman's life. And as long as they are loved, any child is happy. This also means we need to change our perspective, not only for single mothers but also for children born without a father or mother. If they are still raised well and receive sufficient love from their single mother or father, there's no reason for us to look at them with pity or sigh. Pity can sometimes be imposed and a burden on many people's lives if it's not placed in the right place at the right time.

A single mother is highly respectable, for besides her strength of character, she also possesses a great sense of responsibility. Clearly, these mothers, even those who gave birth to children out of naive infatuation, are more valuable than those who, preoccupied with seeking happiness and fame, carelessly abandon or kill their children. Being a single mother isn't something to be glorified, but it's certainly not a source of shame or humiliation; it's simply something to be proud of in the love you've given birth to. No one has the right to take that happiness away, because at least you've brought beautiful life into the world.

According to Phununews