Being a single mother and the pros and cons?

Being a single mother is not something to be honored, nor is it a shame or humiliation, it is just a matter of being proud of the love you have for the child you have given birth to.

A girl in her prime with hopes and dreams for a bright future ahead, why would she push herself into such a difficult path? Why would she let herself suffer in the face of all kinds of hardships and bear the burden of giving birth alone? My friend answered me like this in a conversation: “There are many people who say I am crazy, some people doubt my gender. That I am making myself miserable. Having food, education, a decent career, beauty, success and fame… I should have loved and married a worthy man to be worth living. But, I ask myself, what is worth living? What is it to love a man with the right qualifications? Don’t we all have to decide and take responsibility for our own lives?

A single mother is very respectable, because besides courage, she also has great responsibility.

My friend has been a single mom for two years now, her child not only develops very well physically but also has special awareness and personality. To raise an independent, confident, and knowledgeable child in a living environment with many suspicious eyes, many criticisms and exclusions is a really difficult thing. She must have experienced countless pressures from people's mouths. Fortunately, she also has a supportive family, her parents love the child and believe in her choice. However, to have such a strong mentality, I believe that she must have a strong belief and immense love for her child. A mother's love is the key to open any door that separates her from life.

Being a single mother abroad is not something new or big. In Vietnam, in the past two years, it has not been rare. I do not know how many Vietnamese women are single mothers. But for whatever reason, whether it is out of necessity or by choice, I still want to give those women sympathy and respect. Of course, I do not encourage the creation of a trend of motherhood like fashion, because being a mother for any purpose is not as easy and simple as wearing a trendy item without knowing whether it is suitable or not, and then if one day when that trend passes, suddenly people get bored and want to abandon their responsibilities.

Being a mother with a husband is still very hard. Being a single mother requires you to have nerves of steel to always raise and protect your child firmly, to compensate your child with the double love of a mother and a father. However, I think that the reason that leads you to be a single mother is not as important as you feel ready to meet your own life and happy with your choice, you choose because of love for your child. If you feel that you want to be a single mother to show dissatisfaction, to take revenge or to prove a certain ego to men, the worst thing is not from the mouth of the world but from yourself.

Being a mother is difficult but the most wonderful experience in a woman's life. And as long as they are loved, every child will be happy. That also means we need to change our perspective, not only for single mothers but also for children born without a father or mother. If they are still raised well and receive full love from a single mother or father, there is no reason for us to have a look or a smack of pity. Pity is often an imposed pity and a burden on many people's lives if not placed in the right place and at the right time.

A single mother is very respectable, because besides her bravery, she also has a high sense of responsibility. Obviously, those mothers, even if some give birth to children because of foolishness and rashness in love, are still more precious than those mothers who, because of their busy search for happiness and fame, are heartless and irresponsible, killing or abandoning their children. Being a single mother is not something to be honored, but it is certainly not a disgrace or shame, it is just a matter of being proud of the love for the child you have given birth to. That happiness, no one has the right to take away, because at least you have brought a beautiful life to life.

According to Phununews