MC Huyen Ny: Don't blame the third party.

The difference between love in your 20s and after marriage and having children is that the two people gradually lose patience with each other.

Stories of infidelity and the appearance of a third party are always a "hot" topic across online forums. Within families, it's like a hidden "enemy," waiting for an opportunity to sever the bond between husband and wife, leaving the home desolate. However, from a certain perspective, the appearance of a third party is like a "test" for the marriage, and how the couple responds will determine whether their relationship lasts a long time or ends here.

Huyen Ny always exercises to maintain her beautiful figure.

According to MC Huyen Ny, when a marriage breaks down due to the appearance of a third party, don't blame them. If there's a need to "expose" someone to blame, it's none other than the husband and wife themselves. Happiness is something that both partners nurture and preserve. When a husband and wife are no longer a source of support, no longer create excitement, no longer provide a warm and comforting haven... then it's no wonder they drift apart, even while still sharing a bed.

She has experienced and witnessed the changes in many relationships around her and realized that, at 20, we love with full emotion, trying to do everything possible to show our love for each other: buying flowers, giving gifts, going out for dinner, watching movies, writing love letters... Sometimes, neither person even dares to complain about having to wait for fear of the other getting angry and breaking up. All of that is because when young, the two people have patience for each other. Then, after 5-7 years of marriage, children are born and the couple gets caught up in other whirlwinds of life. There is no longer time for love, and time for patience is also lost.

"When gestures of affection are no longer expressed, when there's no longer enough excitement to make the other person happy... that's when love is dying. Do you still want to save that love? If so, jump right in and perform 'artificial respiration'. Recreate the things you used to do when you were dating; don't think they're cheesy and remove them from your current life. They may be cheesy, but you liked them, loved them, and got married. It's human nature; we need that cheesiness to nurture love."

"A simple example is going out to eat together. If it's good, we praise it together; if it's bad, we criticize it together, and then we avoid that restaurant altogether. If we really want to go out to eat, there's still something to do together, unlike the 'oh well, I'll just eat quickly at home to get it over with' kind of thing. Or like going to the movies to laugh together, to share the same emotions for a moment. If the movie is good, we enjoy it; if it's bad, we 'curse' everything from the director to the script to the actors... but at least we're cursing together. As long as we can talk to each other, that love will live on. Don't give up," the beautiful MC wittily shared her secret to keeping the romance alive.

Despite being busy with her career and taking care of three young children, Huyen Ny never forgets to take care of her appearance to always look attractive in her husband's eyes.

Speaking about the love triangle between husband, wife, and lover, Huyen Ny suggests that if anyone wants to avoid getting caught in that mess, they need to stay level-headed and not ignore the following advice:

1. For the wife:

- Give your husband what his mistress can't:

For a husband, a wife often possesses weapons that a third party can never have simultaneously: love, children, and patience. Acquiring these three requires a process of shared hardship. Without love, it's difficult to begin; without children, a lasting bond is hard to achieve; and without patience, there is no such thing as marriage. A mistress may offer a man carnal passion and initial excitement, but without these three elements, few relationships can survive.

- Give your husband what his mistress can do:

Initial intimacy is a powerful force that draws two people together. Have you ever neglected your sex life with your husband? If so... even to the point of not having time to attend to his needs, then you need to reconsider. Busy with children, busy with work, physically exhausted... you must make an effort to show your care. Neglecting intimacy once or twice might be understandable, but a lack of intimacy month after month, year after year, is something no husband will accept.

Furthermore, the mistress also gave her husband sympathetic nods. Sometimes people just want someone to listen. Effective listening doesn't involve criticizing, nor does it matter who is right or wrong; it's simply about sitting there and letting the other person speak.

There's a foreign proverb that defines a wife: "She embodies three roles in one person: a skilled chef in the kitchen, a refined lady in the living room, and a whore in the bedroom." Nowadays, besides those three roles, women are also capable and talented individuals in their work. Combining all of that, they end up exhausted at the end of the day. Therefore, while mistresses may be plentiful, a wife is usually one of a kind.

- Give yourself the choice:

If a wife does everything she can and her husband still cheats, it means either she's turned a blind eye to his infidelity for years, or she's dealing with an abnormal husband. Don't make a fuss; instead, bravely face the problem and choose the best course of action for yourself.

If a woman chooses to stay in a marriage for the sake of her children, she shouldn't, because children living in a loveless environment will become "disabled adults." They will never understand true love and will only seek out love similar to their parents', suffering but without liberation.

A husband who takes care of the children and does the housework himself will understand his wife more.

2. For the husband

From the perspective of a wife and a woman, Huyen Ny sends this message: "If you don't want to spend your whole life sleeping with only one woman, then never get married. Get married and have children when you're tired of having fun, have a stable career, prefer a slower pace of life, and care about the happiness of others. With a wife and children, men will have less time for you, so don't rush."

There are two types of men: those who are always promiscuous and those who choose a life without it. But everything has its price. Some women are as passionate as storms; they come and sweep you into their whirlwind, taking your house and possessions with them, leaving you with many losses. As long as you have your assets, they will come, if not one, then another. But women who are willing to give their whole lives to you, bear children, and care for you in old age are rare. That's why the term "soulmate" exists in this world.

He's tired of his wife, but has he ever considered that she might be tired of him too? But she didn't immediately throw herself into the arms of another man. She has hormones, needs, and desires for love and affection. That's why people don't easily call each other life partners. If you can't be with your wife for life, it's best to let her live her life the way she wants. End one relationship before starting another. Men should accept the consequences of their actions and not let women and children suffer because of them."

3. For the third party

Some people leave on their own accord when they find out they're the third party, while others choose to stay. They often cite love as the reason. But being someone's first love is better than being the third party because everyone deserves happiness.

As the third party in a relationship, the first step is to get out of that mess. The next step is to wait until the previous relationship ends with clear, written documentation before stepping in. "Those who are soulmates for a lifetime can wait; there's no need to rush into it publicly. It's embarrassing for everyone and doesn't benefit anyone. The third party will never receive the sympathy of society; otherwise, the world would be in chaos, and the principles of marriage and family would be merely for show. It's best to remain silent and wait if it's true love," Huyền Ny shared.

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