MC Huyen Ny: Don't blame the third person

The difference between love at 20 and after marriage and children is that the two people gradually lose patience with each other.

The story of adultery and the appearance of a third person is always a "hot" topic on all forums. In every family, it is like a hidden "enemy", just waiting for a moment of carelessness to cut off the bond between husband and wife, making the home become desolate. However, in a certain aspect, the appearance of a third person is like a "test" of marriage and how the couple behaves will determine whether they will live together for a long time or end here.

Huyền Ny always exercises to have a beautiful figure.

According to MC Huyen Ny, when a marriage breaks down with the appearance of a third person, do not blame them. If there is a need to "expose" to find someone to blame, it is none other than the husband and wife. Happiness is built and maintained by both. When the husband and wife are no longer a support, no longer create excitement, no longer a warm place to comfort... then why not lose each other even when still sharing the same bed.

She has experienced and witnessed the changes of many relationships around her and realized that, when we are 20 years old, we love with full emotions, trying to do everything possible to express our love to each other: buying flowers, giving gifts, having dinner, watching movies, love letters... Sometimes, each person even "doesn't dare" to complain when having to wait for fear that the other person will get angry and break up. All of that is because when they are young, the two people have patience for each other. Then after 5-7 years of marriage, the children are born and the couple is caught up in other whirlpools in life. There is no more time for love and no time for patience.

"As long as loving gestures are not expressed, there is no longer enough interest to make the other person happy... that is when love is about to die. Do you still want to save that love? If you do, then jump right into 'artificial respiration'. Let's do the things we used to do when we were dating, don't think they are cheesy and eliminate them from our current life. They are cheesy but we liked them, loved them and got married. Human tendency, we need that cheesiness to nurture love.

A simple example is going out to eat together, if it's good, we praise it together, if it's bad, we criticize it together and then avoid that restaurant together. If we still want to go out to eat together, there's still something to do together, not just let it be, eat a quick meal at home to get through the meal. Or like going to the movies to laugh together, to live together with emotions for a moment. If the movie is good, we enjoy it, if it's bad, we 'curse the hell out' from the director to the script, the actors... but we get to curse together. As long as we can talk to each other, that love will live forever. Don't give up," the beautiful MC wittily said about her secret to rekindling love.

Busy with her career and taking care of three children, Huyen Ny never forgets to beautify herself to always be attractive in her husband's eyes.

Talking about the three-way relationship between husband - wife - lover, Huyen Ny believes that if each person does not want to fall into that mess, they need to stay alert and not ignore the suggestions below:

1. For the wife:

- Give your husband what his mistress can't do:

For the husband, the wife often has weapons that the third person never has at the same time: love, children and patience. To have these 3 things must be a process of sharing joys and sorrows. Without love, it will be difficult to start, without children, it will be difficult to have a long-term relationship, and without patience, there will be no so-called marriage. A lover can give him physical passion and initial excitement, but without the above 3 factors, not many relationships can survive.

- Give your husband what his mistress can do:

Sex at the beginning is the magic that draws two people together. Have you ever neglected sex with your husband? If so... you don't even have time to care for your husband's needs, then you have to reconsider. Being busy with children, busy with work, exhausted... you have to get up and learn to care. One or two times of neglecting is understandable, but not being intimate from month to month, year after year, it's hard for any husband to accept.

In addition, the mistress also gives her husband sympathetic nods. People sometimes speak, just hoping to be listened to. Effective listening is not trying to criticize, not caring who is right or wrong, but simply sitting there letting the other person speak.

There is a foreign proverb that defines a wife: "She has three roles in one person, a talented chef in the kitchen, a lady in the living room and a whore in the bedroom." Nowadays, in addition to the three rooms above, women when going out are also individuals with real power and talent at work. Combining all of them, at the end of the day, they are "tired"? Therefore, there are many lovers on the street but there is usually only one wife.

- Give yourself the choice:

If a woman has done everything but her husband still cheats on her, then either she has been turning a blind eye to her husband for years or she has an abnormal husband. Don’t be so stubborn, be brave enough to face the problem and choose the best way for yourself.

If women choose to stay in a marriage for the sake of their children, they should not because children living in an environment without love will become "disabled adults". They will never understand true love, so they only know how to seek love like their parents, suffering but not freeing each other.

When a husband takes care of the children and does housework himself, he will understand his wife more.

2. For the husband

From the perspective of a wife, a woman, Huyen Ny sends the message: "If you don't want to sleep with only one woman for the rest of your life, never get married. Get married and have children when you're tired of having fun, have a stable career, like to live more slowly and know how to care about the happiness of others. Having a wife and having children, men will have less time for themselves, so don't rush.

There are two types of men: those who are always "playing around" and those who choose not to "play around". But everything has its price. There are women who live passionately like storms, they come and sweep you into a whirlpool, take away your house, your property and leave you with many losses. You still have capital, they will still come, if not this one, there will be another. But there are not many women who are willing to give you their whole life, give birth to children and take care of you when you are old. That is why the world has the word soulmate.

You are bored with your wife, but have you ever thought that your wife is bored with you too? But she did not immediately rush into the arms of another man. She also has hormones, needs, and desires to be loved and pampered. That is why people do not easily call each other life partners. If you cannot spend the rest of your life with your wife, it is best to let her spend her life the way she wants. End one love affair before starting a new one. Men, if you play, you have to accept it, do not let many women and children suffer because of you.

3. For the third person

Some people automatically leave when they know they are the third person and some people decide to stay. They often give the reason of love to explain everything. But being someone's first person is better than being the third person because everyone deserves to be happy.

As a third person, the first step is to get out of that mess. The next step is to wait until the previous relationship ends with clear black and white paper before stepping in. "Soul mates can wait a lifetime, there is no rush to make it public. It is embarrassing for the other person, shameful for me and useless. The third person will never receive sympathy from the world, otherwise this world would be in chaos and the principles of marriage or family would be established just for fun? It is best to be silent and wait if it is true love", Huyen Ny shared.

According to ngoisao.net