7 mistakes parents unintentionally make that spoil their children.

(Baonghean.vn) - Every child sometimes disobeys their parents. However, if these behaviors continue repeatedly, they will become routine and form bad character traits in exceptional children. This happens when parents don't recognize or overlook their children's misbehavior, or it could also be because children imitate wrongdoings from adults, most worryingly from their own parents.

Here are some unintentional mistakes some parents make when raising their children:

1. Inconsistent

You tell your child that they can't have any more candy today. When the child gets upset or fussy, you coax them and give them the candy. By behaving this way, your child will develop the idea that they must get whatever they want.

2. Verbal punishment

Mothers often only punish their children with words.

We've all been threatened by our parents at least once, threats that weren't even that scary: "If you do it again, you'll be banned from watching TV" / "I'll never take you out again if you keep misbehaving like this"...etc. And then everything goes back to normal, the verbal punishments are never carried out. Of course, the children will repeat the same mistakes, because after all, they weren't punished!

3. Defend your children unconditionally.

"She's just a child." / "My child was tired and couldn't do her homework. Don't punish her." / "She just did it by accident."... Constantly making excuses for children's mistakes in every situation without understanding the full context is a common mistake made by many parents.

4. Threat

According to psychologists, intimidation is absolutely not the right way for parents to educate their children. A group of scientists has shown that harshly punishing children who lie actually encourages them to lie again.

5. Yell in the child's face.

Shouting in front of a child will make them feel scared.

The fact that you raise your voice and scold your children doesn't mean they will understand and listen to your teachings. Even if they do listen, it's only as a way to stop you from yelling at them. This method only damages the relationship between you and your children.

6. Physical punishment

According to various studies, if a child experiences physical punishment too frequently, they may become more aggressive and withdrawn. These children will seek ways to escape their parents' beatings or learn to endure the pain instead of reflecting on and correcting their behavior.

7. Smile and let it go.

You might not be strict when your child sits with their feet up on the chair, or eats with their hands, or engages in other thoughtless behaviors, thinking they'll learn as they get older. But those around you will judge your child and yourself based on these actions. Your child will continue to behave the way they want if you don't remind them and teach them proper behavior and manners in public and with others.

Pham Dung

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