7 mistakes parents make that unintentionally spoil their children

(Baonghean.vn) - Every child sometimes disobeys their parents. However, if these behaviors continue many times, they will become a habit and form a bad personality of the exceptional child. This happens when their parents do not recognize or ignore their children's mistakes or it can also be because they imitate the wrongdoings of adults, most worryingly from their parents.

Below are some unintentional mistakes in child rearing of some parents:

1. Inconsistent

You tell your child that he/she is not allowed any more candy today. The child gets upset or fusses, so you coax him/her and give him/her candy. By behaving this way, your child will form the idea that whatever he/she wants, he/she must ask for it.

2. Verbal punishment

Mothers often punish their children only with words.

We have all been threatened by our parents at least once, and the threats were not even scary at all: "If you do it again, you will be banned from watching TV" / "I will never take you out again if you continue to be naughty like this"...etc. and then everything goes back to normal, the verbal punishments are not carried out. Of course, the children will repeat the mistakes, because they are not punished anyway!

3. Defend your children unconditionally

"She's just a kid."/ "My kid was tired so he couldn't do his homework. Don't punish him."/ "He just made a mistake."... Always making excuses for his child's mistakes in every situation without finding out the truth is clearly wrong for many parents.

4. Threat

According to psychologists, threatening is absolutely not the right way for parents to educate their children. A group of scientists have shown that harshly punishing children who lie makes them lie more often in the future.

5. Yell at your child

Screaming in front of your baby will make him feel scared.

The fact that you yell at your kids doesn’t mean they will listen to you. If they do listen, it will only be a coping mechanism to get you to stop yelling. This method will only damage the relationship between you and your children.

6. Physical punishment

According to various studies, if a child experiences physical punishment too often, they may become more aggressive and withdrawn. These children will find ways to escape their parents' spankings or learn to endure pain instead of reflecting and correcting themselves.

7. Smile and let it go

You may not be strict when your child sits with his feet up on a chair, or eats with his hands, or does other small, thoughtless actions that he will realize when he grows up. But those actions will be judged by those around him and by you. Your child will continue to behave the way he wants, if you do not remind him and teach him the right behaviors and manners in public and with others.

Pham Dung

(According to Bright Side)