Overprotective: Parents turn their children into 'greenhouse plants'

“Go out and see the world/Stay home with your mother and you will never be wise” - The teachings of our grandparents from ancient times until now, when I think about it, I find it even more true.

“Our children are our own flesh and blood”, so every parent loves their children, wants to protect them from the “lurking dangers” of life. But how can parents hold their children in their arms forever? Children will grow up, and parents will grow old. If there is no preparation for their children to stumble into life, how can parents expect their children to confidently step forward?

The process of growing up from birth to adulthood of any species requires learning and experiencing to learn skills that are often instinctive.

Just like baby birds hatching from eggs, in the first months, they constantly chirp for food, and the mother bird feeds them directly into her mouth. Then gradually the mother bird uses a “trick” to teach the baby birds to fly: every time she feeds the baby birds, the mother bird does not stand close to the baby birds as before, but stands farther away so that the baby birds have to lean farther and farther, sometimes even falling to the ground.

Sometimes, the mother bird even actively pushes her baby bird out of the nest. Just like that, the mother bird helps the baby bird learn to fly. One day, the baby bird grows up, has enough feathers and wings to fly away to many places.

If the mother bird only keeps her chicks in the nest, how can the chicks ever fly high and far with their own wings?

Little birds teach their young in such a “strategic” way, but we humans often tend to keep our children in the house and pamper them for fear that they will be in danger when they go out into society.

Every parent wants the best for their children, and everything they do is for the good of their children. But often what parents think is good for their children is actually harmful to them, and that harm becomes more evident when the children grow up.

It is abnormal for parents to keep their children under their control, it will affect the normal development of the child.

Indian spiritual master Osho (1931-1990) taught: “Allow your children to grow up in freedom. Of course, there will be many risks, but what can we do? Life is a collection of risks, all growth is subject to risk.

Don't overprotect them, or they will become hothouse plants - almost useless. Let them live freely. Let them fight for their lives, let them grow, and they will always thank you. You will always be happy because later you will see their vitality clearly."

Parents want their children to avoid conflicts and struggles so that they can be safe, but the results are not like that. According to Swiss child psychologist Jean Piaget (1896-1980), conflict is an essential part of the process of mental development.

According to Jean Piaget, through “wars” with friends and parents, children learn how to adapt to the world and develop strategies for dealing with difficult problems. Children who try to avoid conflict at all costs, or those who are overprotected by their parents, end up with social and mental disabilities.

According to Dantri