My child only cries when being bullied by other children; what should parents do?
Most parents want their children to be gentle and well-behaved. But being so gentle that they let others bully them all the time is a different matter entirely.
Shy, gentle children are easily bullied, so parents should train them to be confident and strong - Photo: NY Daily News
Shy children, those who cry easily, are awkward in communication, are naive to the point of being naive, weak-willed, timid, and fearful in their mannerisms and postures, are very easily victims of troublemakers.
What should you do if your child falls into this category?
First of all, it's important to remember that tA gentle and kind person usually has a pensive temperament and is very shy about socializing.A child's temperament is difficult to change, but they can overcome their weaknesses by developing certain assertive and confident behavioral skills.
From a child psychology perspective, children who learn to be assertive and confident are less likely to be targets of bullies and troublemakers.
Here are some steps to guide children in developing assertiveness and decisiveness, helping them become less timid and less gentle:
Cultivate a confident demeanor, gestures, and posture:Parents can foster self-confidence in their children through specific words and actions. For example: "You are so strong for doing that job" or "You are so brave in martial arts."
Regularly assign your child age-appropriate tasks and encourage them to complete them. When children consistently achieve their goals, they will be more confident as they integrate into life.
Parents shouldn't delude themselves into wondering why, despite daily lectures on building self-confidence, their children remain shy, insecure, and timid. Because to become a true skill, self-confidence must be demonstrated in one's thoughts, attitudes, and behavior.
This means that children need to practice many times, in many situations, to become less timid and less shy.
Help your child understand that when they are confident in life, even troublemaking children will think twice before raising their fists to threaten them.
Once children understand the value of self-confidence and the determination to make it a reality, create opportunities for them to participate in group activities and teamwork. Through diverse experiences, children will gradually overcome their timidity and weakness.
Eliminate fear:Bullying children often want to see if they can provoke or incite their target. They take pleasure in seeing their victim show fear, distress, cry, beg, or simply give in.
Therefore, teach your children never to let them see your discomfort, resentment, or anxiety. Instead, train them to control their gestures, body language, and especially their facial expressions.
Parents should practice and experience common bullying situations with their children, then let the children adjust themselves using a mirror until they develop a calm, even indifferent and cold demeanor in the face of bullies' teasing. Repeat this many times to help the child become proficient.
Teach your child to proactively confront their bully:The child's gaze sharpens, staring directly at the bully or harasser with an attitude of contempt. This helps the child become more proactive and confident.
Ultimately, troublemakers are only bold because of their recklessness and ganging. Therefore, if you want them to ignore you, proactively look the ringleader in the eye and show that you understand their malicious intentions.
Respond with a firm, loud voice, saying, "Leave me alone."After being provoked by a group of bad friends, children should learn to respond in a firm, direct, and concise voice: "What do you want?", "Leave me alone," "I told you to stay away"... Muttering or whispering will only make the situation worse.
Leave:Teach children to quickly observe and find ways to escape from the "bears'" encirclement, to go to crowded places where they can seek help and share with trustworthy people...
Never put yourself in a corner with no way out. Remain calm in the face of provocation and challenges from a group of bad friends who intend to isolate you in a secluded place. Absolutely do not believe anything said by those who habitually insult and bully the weak.
Absolutely do not remain silent and passively endure the suffering.Teach children to find ways to help themselves before seeking help from others. Don't naively think that bullies will only cause trouble for a short time and won't dare to hurt them too badly.
"You can't make something out of nothing," don't let your child face troublemakers empty-handed. Therefore, parents should teach their children some self-defense techniques and how to act appropriately in self-protection.