My child only cries when bullied, what should parents do?
Most parents want their children to be gentle and well-behaved. But being so gentle that you let your friends bully you all the time is another story.
Shy, gentle children are easily bullied, so parents should train their children to always be confident and strong - Photo: NY Daily News
Shy children, those who cry a lot, are awkward in communication, are gentle to the point of being naive, weak, have servile gestures and postures, are timid, fearful… are very likely to become victims of troublemakers.
If your child belongs to the above group, what should you do?
First of all, it is important to remember that tCheap and gentle people are often of a melancholy temperament and are very shy about communicating.Temperament types are difficult to change, but children can overcome their weaknesses by building some assertive, more confident coping skills.
From a child psychology perspective, children who learn to be more assertive and confident are less likely to be targets of troublemakers and bullies.
Here are some steps to guide children on the skills of being decisive and resolute to help them become less timid and less gentle:
Practice style, gestures, and confident posture:Parents can build their child's self-confidence with specific words and actions. For example, "You were so strong when you did that" or "You were so brave in that fight."
Regularly assign tasks that are within your child's ability and encourage and motivate them to complete them. When children regularly achieve their goals, they will be more confident when integrating into life.
Parents should not "delude" themselves about why they preach about self-confidence every day but their children are still shy, insecure and timid. Because to become a real skill, self-confidence must be expressed in thoughts, attitudes and behaviors.
That means children have to practice many times, in many situations, to become less gentle and less timid.
Help your child see that when he is confident in life, even troublemakers will think twice before raising their fists.
Once children understand the value of confidence and are determined to make it a reality, create conditions for them to participate in group activities, work in groups... Through exposure and experience, children will gradually become less weak and cowardly.
Eliminate fear:Bullies want to know if they can provoke or provoke their target. They get a kick out of seeing their victim show fear, distress, crying, pleading or resignation.
Therefore, teach your children never to let them see your discomfort, anger, or anxiety. Instead, practice controlling your gestures, especially your facial expressions.
Parents should practice with their children and experience some common harassment situations, then let them adjust themselves through the mirror, until they can form a calm, indifferent, and cold attitude towards the teasing of bullies. Practice many times so that children can become proficient.
Teach your child to actively look the bully straight in the eye:Look straight at the bully or tease with a stern look in your eyes. This helps children become more proactive and confident.
Troublemakers are only violent because of their recklessness and grouping. So, if you want them to ignore you, take the initiative to look the leader in the face and show that you understand their bad intentions.
Reply "Leave me alone" in a firm, loud voice:After being provoked by a group of bad friends, children should learn to respond in a decisive, straightforward, and concise voice: "What do you want?", "Leave me alone", "I told you to stay away"... If you keep nagging and mumbling, the situation will get worse.
Leave:Teach children to quickly observe to find a way to escape the "bears' siege", go to crowded places to be able to ask for help, share with trustworthy people...
Never let yourself fall into a corner with no way out. Stay calm when faced with provocations and challenges from a group of bad friends who want to isolate you in a deserted place. Never believe anything said by those who often insult and bully the weak.
Absolutely do not stay silent and "take it"Teach your child to find a way to save himself before asking for help from others. Don't be naive and think that bullies are just messing around for a while and won't dare to hurt too much.
"Without flour, there is no glue", don't let your children "bare-handed" to face troublemakers. Therefore, parents should teach their children some martial arts to defend themselves and know when to strike for legitimate self-defense.
