Letter to future daughter-in-law

My son is only 10 years old, maybe he hasn't been born yet, maybe he is already a beautiful young lady.

Why do I know you are beautiful? Because to me, there is no ugly girl. It's just that each girl is beautiful in her own way.

You know, I'm so excited, imagining the moment when I welcome you home to my beautiful home, I will hold you in my arms and hand over my silly son to you to love and care for.

I think I will love you more than my daughter just because of one thing, your parents have worked hard to give birth to and raise you to become a grown woman, to them you are always a treasure to be cherished and pampered, but before receiving a day of reward from you, you have gone to your husband's house, that is my house, to love and take care of my son, and maybe even take care of my husband and I when the weather changes, most of all you will give birth to extremely lovely and interesting grandchildren for me.

Dear daughter-in-law, I believe our family life will be happy and fulfilled when we have another child. I will be very grateful to your parents for giving birth to and raising me such a lovely daughter-in-law.

Don't hesitate, I will always stand by you because we are all women, I was once a daughter, daughter-in-law, wife, mother...

Don't pamper your husband too much, men are easily lazy and dependent, you should love yourself and give your husband the opportunity to take care of you, I will be very happy when my son shares the housework with you, never think that you are a woman so you have to sacrifice, don't let your husband become a coward by forcing his wife to sacrifice so much.

Of course I do not advise you to live selfishly when the nature of life is give and take. You should live up to your duty without having to try. If the word "try" always exists in your mind, I am afraid that when the time comes, you will be exhausted and give up everything. At that time, how will we, my son, and my grandchildren face it?

Love is what binds children together, but to maintain family happiness, love and understanding are needed. I believe that my son will know how to love and cherish his child as his mother taught him when he was young.

Don't try to be better than your husband in every way, give my son a chance to prove his manhood, don't rush into making money and forget the habits of flower arranging, reading books and family meals, leave the material burden to your husband, you just need to take care of your own needs and that's good enough.

Listen to me, if you tie something soft, tie it tightly. Don't make a fuss or lose control of your anger and say hurtful words to each other. That will become a lingering wound forever.

Women with strong personalities are easy to impress, but gentleness can easily melt men's hearts. If you can balance these two personalities, you will be a wonderful wife.

Life is full of temptations now, maybe at some point, you or your husband will have a crush, you should use your children and the sweet moments of husband and wife love to overcome, never be blindly jealous to lower yourself before your opponent, determine the cause from your husband and children, not from them, and behave in a civilized manner, I believe no man would trade a wife like that to chase after frivolous things outside.

In the worst case scenario where we can't maintain our family's happiness, feel free to break up. If we have to wear masks together even in the bedroom, that's terrible. We will raise our grandchildren together until we are exhausted.

And you know, then you will no longer be my daughter-in-law, you will be my daughter.

I love you and miss you so much.

Nguyen Thi Thanh Yen