Letter to my future daughter-in-law

My son is only 10 years old; perhaps he hasn't even been born yet, perhaps he's already a beautiful young woman.

Why do I know you're beautiful? Because to me, there are no ugly girls; each girl is beautiful in her own way.

You know, I'm so excited, imagining how beautiful the moment will be when I welcome you home to my house, when I'll hold you close and entrust my naive son to your loving care.

I think I will love you more than my daughter for one reason: your parents have worked hard to raise you into a grown woman; to them, you are always a precious treasure, cherished and pampered. Yet, before they have received even a single day of gratitude from you, you have gone to your husband's home, which is our home, to love and care for my son, and perhaps even take care of my husband and me when we are unwell. Above all, you will give me incredibly lovely and interesting grandchildren.

My dear daughter-in-law, I believe our family life will be joyful and fulfilling with the addition of you. I will be eternally grateful to your parents for giving me such a lovely daughter-in-law.

Don't hesitate, I will always stand by you because, simply put, we are all women; I was once a daughter, a daughter-in-law, a wife, a mother...

Don't spoil your husband and children too much; men easily become lazy and dependent. You should love yourself and give your husband the opportunity to take care of you. I will be very happy when my son shares household chores with you. Never think that because you are a woman you have to sacrifice yourself. Don't let your husband become a coward by making you constantly sacrifice yourself like that.

Of course, I'm not advising you to live selfishly, because the nature of life is about giving and receiving. You should live according to your responsibilities without trying too hard. If the word "try" is always in your head, I fear that eventually you will become exhausted and give up everything. At that point, how will we, my son and my grandchildren, face the consequences?

Love is what binds the children together, but maintaining family happiness requires affection and understanding. We believe our son will learn to love and cherish his children as his mother taught him in his childhood.

Don't try to outdo your husband in every aspect; let our son have the opportunity to prove his manhood. Don't bury yourself in making money and forget your habits of arranging flowers, reading, and family meals. Leave the financial burden to your husband; it's enough for you to take care of your own needs.

Listen to me, a gentle approach is more effective than a harsh one. Don't make a fuss or lose control of your anger, saying hurtful and damaging things that will only leave a lasting wound.

A woman with a strong personality can easily make an impression, but gentleness is what truly melts a man's heart. If you can balance these two traits, you will be a wonderful wife.

Life is full of temptations these days, and at some point, you or your husband might have fleeting infatuations. Use your children and the sweet moments of your married life to overcome them. Never be blindly jealous and lower yourself in front of your rival. Identify the cause as stemming from your husband, not from them, and respond respectfully. I believe no man would trade a wife like that for frivolous things outside the marriage.

In the worst-case scenario, if you can't maintain your family happiness, feel free to separate. Having to wear masks with each other, even in the bedroom, would be terrible. We will raise our grandchildren together until we are too weak to do anything else.

And you know what? At that time, you won't be my daughter-in-law anymore; you'll be my daughter.

I love you and I'm so eager to meet you.