Have you ever wondered how the people you want to meet will greet you on the other side of the door? How many moods are there on the other side of the door? Do you think that the mood of the people on the other side of the door is reflected in the way they open and close the door?
About wide open doors: I especially like to go to someone's house and always see them open. First, it shows that they are always ready to welcome guests. Second, we don't have to bother knocking, just call out to signal our arrival and then behind there we will see the face of the homeowner welcoming us. And usually we just enter the house without any fear. In case the door is wide open and the homeowner is away, it also makes us feel confident to wait, I will wait with peace of mind, they will soon return because no one would leave the door open like that to go far or for a long time. While waiting, I can chat and gossip with the people around, because I believe that more or less they know and understand my friend, who is always open to neighbors. Not to mention that there must be a clear understanding and trust between the two sides for my host friend to feel secure leaving his house like that. So if a door is always wide open, welcoming, then inside there must be a happy, cheerful mood, promising openness when we enter. Even if the owner is not at home but the door is still wide open, it also creates a strong belief that we just need to wait a moment and we will meet the person we need to meet. Most of us have the opportunity to thoroughly understand both the person and every corner inside the house of the wide open door.
What about the half-closed doors? I think the host is not the type to be so enthusiastic about welcoming guests that he/she opens the door wide as if to say "my house is always open, please come in". But surely, if they are home, it is not bad if you drop by, because just knocking lightly on the door and knowing that the person you need to meet is inside also gives you hope of meeting them. It is like they leave the door open as if waiting for someone to knock, as long as someone knocks, there will be a response from inside and if they welcome you warmly, they will come out and open the door wide to invite you in. If their mood is whatever, they just answer and do not stand up to open the door to welcome you, then at this point, it is your right to choose whether to enter or not. If the meeting is really important to you, you can push the door open and enter. But if it is not so important for you to enter, and whether you enter or not is fine, you can just stand outside and say something brief and end it. Personally, I do not like this way of leaving the door ajar because it makes me confused about whether to enter or not, thinking that the person inside the door is also okay with me. I hate having to be the one to initiate in this situation.
There is also a type of half-closed door for people who are not sure they will stay at home for long, maybe they will leave soon and because they are afraid to close the door, they just leave it half-closed, or maybe they have just come home, in a moment when they have taken off all their worries and come downstairs, they will slam the door shut. In this case, if you really consider meeting them important to you, I'm afraid you have to take advantage and be quick to make it in time. Personally, when I decide to knock on a half-closed door, I always expect the person inside, even if they don't run out to push the door open to invite me in, just sit there with a big smile and say "come in, the door is not locked", then I will be so happy that I boldly push the door open and step inside.
What is behind closed, bolted doors? It is always a difficult situation for the person knocking. Is the person inside already gone? Is there someone inside but they do not want to be disturbed? Or is there a reason they are not ready to receive visitors?
If the owner of the house is away behind that closed door, will you have the confidence to wait for them to come back? There is no guarantee that they will come back or will come back soon. Therefore, no one has the patience to stand still in front of the door in this situation.
If you know for sure that, even though the door is closed, there is still someone inside. If I were someone who desperately wants to see the person inside, I would not knock on the door for the third time, just knock twice, if the inside still does not open, I would leave. Simply because I do not have enough patience, and you could also say because I am self-conscious, clearly I know they do not welcome me, so I will not go in, that's it!
Actually, logically speaking, it is like that, but for me, when I am happy, I open the door wide, when I am in a normal mood, I close the door slightly, when I am sad, I close the door tightly. But it is not always the same rule, sometimes I do the opposite or not in any order at all. I am happy, sad, open, angry or withdrawn, then make a fuss with the doors. Sometimes I close the door slightly just to wait for someone to knock, inside I will have a bright smile with the invitation "come in, the door is not locked". Or sometimes I close the door tightly but make a fuss to let the person outside know, knock on the door, if you don't knock, don't come in, I will be angry. So, it is not true that when I close the door and lock it, I am indifferent to the person outside. Inside that door is a heart full of love waiting for the person to knock.
Sometimes the state of the doors being closed, open, or half-closed is not necessarily as rigid as we think. Therefore, if you are patient, put your trust, love sincerely and wholeheartedly into a relationship, you will receive openness from the other person. Trust me. Don't let anger and pride be the lock, locking the door. Because sometimes if you lock it for too long, you will be afraid to open it and if you leave it for a long time, it will become difficult to open.
Article: Quach My Kieu
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