10 Things That Can Prove Your Marriage Is Forever
If you start a relationship thinking you're going to change the person, then you're not meant for each other.
At the beginning of any relationship, people tend to think that it will last forever. Then, regret or happiness, real life takes its toll. However, there are common ways to find out if the relationship will last. Bright Side points out 10 things for you to consider in the article below.
1. Same social status
At the beginning of a relationship, these differences are often overlooked because you are deeply in love and do not notice the conflict. But think about it, your partner was raised differently, they have different attitudes to simple things and, because of this, they will not understand you completely. If you both want to stay together, you will need to learn to adjust, to learn from each other. However, it will be easier if your upbringing is somewhat similar.
2. Have a similar sense of humor
It's great when you understand your partner's jokes and when you see that he or she also likes your jokes. Sometimes, a sense of humor is the only thing that makes family life "breathe". So, if you are on the same "frequency", the chance of building a happy life together is 90%.
3. Same parenting perspective
When a couple decides to have children, it means their relationship is stable. However, there are some potential problems here – you may think one child is enough, while your partner wants two, or you may have different expectations when it comes to children’s health. It’s best to discuss these things beforehand (not necessarily on the first date) so you have an idea of what you’ll be dealing with in the future.
4. Same financial perspective
It can be difficult for people who are not used to budgeting to find common ground with the person who works with them on a daily basis. Financial matters are sensitive and that is why life is better when you can share them with like-minded people. On the contrary, this can be the number one cause of divorce.
Being willing to share housework is also a must for a happy marriage. |
5. Agree on housework
To avoid conflict over unshared household chores, discuss this issue at least a month before marriage. If you are a perfectionist who keeps things neat and organized and your partner doesn’t even know where the closet is, this is something to think about.
6. Have the same need for "intimacy"
This is simple – you won't be thrilled if you find that your intimate needs aren't being met regularly. It's better to wait a while until the excitement cools down and consider how similar your desires are.
7. Have the same priorities in life
It can be difficult for two people with different priorities to live together. If your wife wants to contribute to the family and you cannot be the only one working to support the family, find a compromise. If you are not ready for this arrangement, it may be something to consider before entering into a relationship.
8. You are both ready for a future together
If you are ready for a family life but your partner keeps postponing the proposal, it is disappointing. When starting a relationship, it is better to take a closer look at your partner and find out whether he has the same priorities as you. Does he want the same things as you do? If the answer is yes, then you can start the relationship without any doubts.
9. You both enjoy being together
When you are in a long-term relationship, you start to feel like you know your partner inside and out. At this stage, it is important to spend time together. For example, you can go to the movies together, enjoy a candlelit dinner, or go for a walk… any activity that makes you both feel comfortable.
10. You don't try to change each other
This is about people who, when they start a relationship, think, "I don't like this person's personality very much, but I can change him." You might be able to inspire him to change, but if there's something you really don't like and you think you can fix it, don't start a relationship. How would you feel if someone tried to turn you into someone else?