10 'no's' of happy couples

Not comparing, criticizing, or ignoring conflicts... will help couples have complete happiness.

To maintain a happy marriage, couples need to live together for a long time and form habits together. Like other normal couples, happy couples also have times when they argue, disagree, get angry or face many other conflicts and difficulties in life.

According to Aish, there are 10 things below that happy couples always strictly follow to have complete and long-lasting happiness:

Don't complain about your partner, or their family or friends.

Because happy couples know that when living together with their husband/wife, they must love everything around them. They always know how to talk frankly and directly with their partner when problems arise related to friends and family to avoid negative influences and thoughts that may cause influence. For them, there is never the concept of dead time, they are always proactive to have the opportunity to resolve conflicts as soon as possible.

No comparison

Happy couples never count their responsibilities or who has to do more. Each person knows what they need to do and sometimes they don’t complain if they do the other’s work. For example, when the husband is engrossed in watching his favorite football game, the wife will be ready to hang the laundry to dry, or when the wife has to work late, the husband will know how to cook and prepare dinner for his wife at home. Likewise, happy couples will not compare their spouses with other wives/husbands.

Don't ignore conflict

Whether the problem is big or small, they do not just keep quiet and let it resolve itself. They would rather argue a little than drag out the conflict until it is no longer resolvable. Of course, when one person gets angry, the other should also calm down and control the situation, but no matter what, they will eventually face it to resolve their conflict completely.

No dreams

Happy couples are realistic and don’t dream that everything they want will come true. They know that each person has a responsibility to build and maintain their happiness, not just depend on the other person. For example, if your dream is to travel, save and save instead of nagging or twisting your partner. Dreams always exist, but some things will come true when you try, some things will always remain dreams.

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Without arguing, they discussed.

Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship. But happy couples keep the arguing to a minimum. Instead, they prefer to discuss, state their points of view, explain their reasons, and try to put themselves in their partner’s shoes.

Don't be petty

Couples who love and are happy do not look for each other’s mistakes or shortcomings, but focus more on the positive things. For example, you are happy to take out the trash for him because he is so busy talking on the phone that he forgot to do his work. Or sometimes he is still happy to hang your clothes while you are busy watching your favorite movie.

Not stuck together like glue

They like to be together, do everything together, but they understand that everyone needs their own space and they respect that. There are many things we like but the other person doesn't like. Instead of whining, nagging or forcing him to do something with you, support him in pursuing and spending time on his personal interests.

Don't just think for yourself

In a relationship, there are times when you need to put your partner before yourself. Give more than you expect to receive.

Do not criticize each other

Happy couples always know how to encourage each other instead of scolding and criticizing each other. They find ways to encourage each other even in the worst situations, because they know that raising their voice will be the "detonator" for the cold war. If your husband is unfortunately unemployed, instead of criticizing, encourage him to go for a job interview, try to make him believe in your love and support. Sincerity and trust in your husband will be the motivation to help him move forward.

Keep trying

Every couple has to go through difficult times. For example, endless arguments, disagreements when choosing something, or work that drives them crazy… No matter what, they never give up, try to compromise and find the best solution for both sides.

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