Secrets to preventing arguments between spouses.

(Baonghean.vn) -Words have a profound impact on relationships, especially marital ones. A single word can either hurt or heal another person. Words can determine the quality of a relationship. For the most part, the happiness or unhappiness of a marriage stems from how they communicate and talk to each other.

Experts assert that 50% of marital conflicts could be avoided if both partners knew how to control their words. Conversely, unnecessary disagreements arise simply from saying a few hurtful things.

Here are some things you should consider whether or not to say to avoid arguments between you and your spouse.

"I don't want to talk to you."

In married life, there will inevitably be times when you feel frustrated and don't want to continue a conversation. If you blurt out, "I don't want to talk to you," it can negatively impact your relationship later on.

What you should say then is: "Can we talk about this later?"

The meaning may be the same, but the way you choose your words will convey a better message.

"Do whatever you want."

When your husband has a concern and needs your advice, simply responding with a curt "Do whatever you want" can strain the relationship and create conflict. He won't find any connection between you two in this answer.

What you should say now is: "We can consider what's best and do it together."

"You're terrible."

If your partner unintentionally says or does something that hurts you, it's easy to blurt out a reproachful remark: "You're terrible." But that only drives you further apart.

The way you should say it is: "I feel hurt hearing you say those things."

"You're so lazy."

If your husband never helps you with household chores, you might feel annoyed and complain, "You're so lazy." But this will only hurt his pride and won't change anything.

What you should say right now is: "I need your help, otherwise I won't be able to do things well."

"All you do is hurt me."

Instead of blaming your husband when he does something that upsets you, saying, "You only ever do things that cause me pain," try easing the tension with a different phrase:

"I know you didn't mean to, but what you're doing is hurting me." Your husband will understand the problem and change for the better.

"I told you, but you wouldn't listen."

If your husband does something that fails in a way you anticipated, you might blurt out, "I knew this would happen, I've told you a hundred times, but you never listened." This only makes him feel worse and prevents him from finding any encouragement from his wife.

Let's put it another way, since things can't be changed anymore: "Time will bring us other opportunities."

Thu Tra

(synthetic)