Daughters-in-law have to take care of their parents-in-law, so who will take care of their parents?

Hi everyone, reading many of your posts on the section about conflicts between the husband and the daughter-in-law, I find it extremely strange. People always force the daughter-in-law to take care of her parents-in-law, so why doesn’t anyone think about the son-in-law also having to treat and show filial piety to his parents-in-law?

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Being a woman, one has to endure many disadvantages, and when one gets married and has children, it becomes even more difficult. In addition to serving their husbands and taking care of their children, they also have the duty to serve their husbands’ parents and take care of their husbands’ entire family…

Even if there is a death anniversary at the husband's house, the woman must take care of everything, if she is careless or busy with something and is not at home, she will be blamed by the whole family of the husband. Then, if the husband's relatives and uncles from the countryside come to visit in the city, if she forgets to buy a few gifts for them to bring back to the countryside, she will be accused of being stingy and miserly... In short, the daughter-in-law will have many "crimes" to tell.

It’s funny to think, families with sons, how they give birth and raise their children, families with daughters are the same, no child suddenly grows up and matures, goes to school, goes to work, earns money. Sons grow up to be filial to their parents until the last days of their lives, but daughters have not done anything for their parents, getting married means they will “lose their children”, they even have to give and not expect anything in return.

Every parent wants their children to have a good life. Parents who have daughters only hope to marry their children into a good family and give them a happy life. Parents have worked hard to give birth to their children and raise them for so many years, and now they have to let their children live in another family. They have to make their children consider a strange house as their own home; consider their husband's family as their own family; and take care of their husband's parents as (or even more than) their own parents. So, who cares about their parents at home?

Many people who get married complain that being a daughter-in-law is hard. They don't have to do anything at home, when they wake up in the morning someone cooks; their clothes are washed and ironed, they just have to wear them to school or work; when they are sick, their parents care for them... Yet, when they follow other people's sons to become daughters-in-law, they have to wake up early in the morning to take care of the meals and the house, rush to work, and at night they rush to cook and serve their parents-in-law, wash clothes for the whole family, clean the house from top to bottom... But it's not comfortable at all, wherever they go and whatever they do, they have to look at the faces of the people in their husband's family to live. It's better for couples who live separately, but most of them have to live with their parents-in-law.

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As for her biological parents, they spent half their healthy lives raising their daughter, and the other half of their sick lives taking care of her themselves. Yet they were not at peace. Today they saw their daughter cry because her husband's family oppressed her, tomorrow they saw their daughter suffer because her husband abused her. What parent could live in peace and ignore that?

That is why many families openly buy things for their husband's parents, but the wife who wants to take care of and help her parents has to do it secretly and secretly. Sometimes, when discovered, the husband's family has to hide the money for her parents.

The husband earns money, the wife also works hard 8 hours a day to earn money. Even if the wife does not earn money, the husband does not have the same right. Don’t you think the saying goes “What belongs to the husband is the wife’s credit”?

That is why they say, “If you want to receive a smile, smile at others first.” If you want others to treat you well, you must treat them well first. If a husband wants his wife to treat his parents well, he must also care for his wife’s parents as he cares for his own. They would give their children away for free, and no one would give them away or sell them.

I write these few lines just to hope that husbands will reconsider themselves, not to say that daughters-in-law do not need to take care of their parents-in-law.

Husband and wife get married to build a home together, share the ups and downs, and go through the rest of their lives together. Men who want their wives to devote themselves to their husband's family and serve them must care about their wives' thoughts, worries, and sufferings. Have you ever truly loved your wife or treated your in-laws kindly?

According to Nguoiduatin