If the daughter-in-law is responsible for taking care of her husband's parents, then who will take care of her own parents?

Hello everyone, after reading many posts in the "Confessions" section about conflicts between in-laws and daughters-in-law, I find it extremely strange. People keep insisting that daughters-in-law have a duty to take care of their husband's parents, so why doesn't anyone think about the fact that sons-in-law should also treat and show filial piety to their wives' parents?

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Women are born with many disadvantages, and their lives become even more difficult after marriage and childbirth. In addition to serving their husbands and caring for their children, they also have the responsibility of serving their husbands' parents and looking after the entire family.

For example, if there's a family gathering or memorial service at the husband's side, women are expected to take charge and handle everything. If they're careless or too busy to be home, they'll be blamed by the entire husband's family. Similarly, if they live in the city and their husband's relatives from the countryside come to visit, forgetting to buy a few gifts for them to take back home will immediately lead to accusations of stinginess and miserliness… In short, daughters-in-law have many "offenses" to be accused of.

It's ironic, but families with sons raise their children the same way they raise their daughters. No child just grows up, becomes an adult, goes to school, gets a job, and earns money on their own. Sons, once they're grown, show filial piety to their parents until their last days, while daughters, before they've done anything for their parents, get married and are essentially "lost" as children, often having to give rather than receive anything in return.

Every parent wants their children to have a good life. Parents with daughters only hope to marry them off to a decent family, so they can live comfortably. Parents work hard to give birth to and raise their children for so many years, and now they have to let their daughters go to live with another family. They have to make their daughters consider a strange house their own; to consider their husband's family their own; to care for their in-laws as if they were (or even better than) their own parents. So, who will care for their own parents back home?

Many women complain about the hardships of being a daughter-in-law after getting married. At home, they don't have to do anything; breakfast is cooked for them, clothes are laundered and ready for them to wear to school or work, and their parents take care of them when they're sick... But after marrying into another family, they have to wake up early to prepare meals and take care of the house, rush to work, and then return home to cook and serve their in-laws, do laundry for the whole family, and clean the house from top to bottom... And yet, it's not comfortable at all. They have to constantly watch the expressions of their husband's family. It's easier for couples who live separately, but most couples living with their in-laws face this situation.

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As for my own parents, they spent half their healthy lives raising their daughter, and the other half, when they were sick, they took care of her themselves. Even then, they couldn't find peace; one day they saw their daughter crying because she was being oppressed by her husband's family, the next day they saw her suffering because of her husband's abuse. What parents could possibly live in peace and just stand by?

That's why in many families, they openly buy things for their in-laws, while wives who want to care for and help their own parents have to do it secretly and discreetly. Sometimes, if they're discovered, the whole family accuses them of hiding money for their own parents.

The husband earns money, and the wife also works hard for eight hours a day to earn money. Even if the wife didn't earn money, the husband wouldn't have the right to treat her like that. Our ancestors said, "What belongs to the husband is also the wife's work!"

That's why they say, "If you want to receive a smile, smile at others first." If you want others to treat you kindly, you must treat them well first. Before a husband expects his wife to treat his parents kindly, he should also care for his wife's parents as he cares for his own. They gave their daughter away with great pain; no one gives their daughter away for free or sells her.

I'm writing these few lines hoping that husbands will reflect on their own behavior, not to suggest that daughters-in-law don't need to take care of their parents-in-law.

A couple marries to build a home together, share joys and sorrows, and walk the rest of their lives together. If a man wants his wife to be wholeheartedly devoted to his family and serve them, he must pay attention to her thoughts, concerns, and suffering. He must also consider whether he has ever truly loved his wife and treated her parents with kindness.

According to Nguoiduatin