'Don't live for your children, live for yourself'

Don't say 'Parents live for their children'. Because when you're gone, how will the children live when the person who lived for them is no longer there?

Ms. Tran Huyen Thao, 37 years old, is a pediatrician in Ho Chi Minh City.Recently sharedDon't live for your children, live for yourself.Ms. Thao's post has caused a big stir in the online community. Up to now, after 5 days of posting, this share has received 4,500 likes, with 2,500 shares.

Dr. Huyen Thao is working at a pediatric clinic in Ho Chi Minh City. Her experience interacting with families coming to the clinic has given her a completely new perspective.

As a mother of three young children and an office worker, Ms. Thao still often has her own space, when going to a coffee shop, meeting friends, sometimes traveling or simply holding her husband's hand in the evening for a walk... without the presence of her children.

In raising children, she emphasizes one thing: children must be willing and happy. Therefore, she never forces them. "Don't"Try to intervene and it's best to be the one to support, advocate and guide your children when needed, in the spirit of respecting their choices and needs," Ms. Thao shared.

From the above way of raising, her children, although still young, are all self-aware, each with their own personality.

Doctor Huyen Thao is also a thoughtful and understanding mother of 3 children.

Below is Dr. Thao's sharing:

There are parents who, when their child is sick, look at their sick child once, then look at their sick parent ten times, thinking the patient is the parent, not the child smiling brightly.

There are parents who, every time their child falls and hurts, feel heartbroken. They worry and feel 100 times more pain than the actual "severity".

There are parents who, when their children go to school and send them off, and the children cry, also cry together, inside and out. They worry about whether their children will be treated well, whether they will integrate, whether they will have difficulties. They wish they could hold their children forever!

There are parents who worry that their children will fall when they run a little, when they jump a little, when they are afraid of falling, when they play with water, when they are afraid of catching a cold, when they laugh a lot, when they get upset, when their children want to do this or that, they stop them first, because of all the negative risks that can happen!

Worry from childhood to adulthood.

From being single, to having a family.

Worried to the point of wanting to intervene in everything.

Worry about things you can't control. Even though you know you can't control them, you still worry.

Worries are suffocating, both for the worrier and for the "worried".

Worry so much, forget to live for yourself.

When they get old and their children no longer "listen" to them, they blame them for being unfilial, because their parents have always lived for them, but now they are not grateful to them.

Being a "worrying" person living in a state of constant supervision, bearing the burden of birth debt for life is as heavy as a rock crushing a person, having no time to live for oneself, to do what one wants, to be oneself and never growing up. Because in reality, one is never given the opportunity to grow up.

That is really not love, but selfishness, which hinders the growth and development of a person.

Because parents are the ones who give their children life, but should not live for them.

Because children need to have unhappy experiences in order to grow up.

Get sick to get healthy.

Falling painfully will help you learn from it and not fall again. Or if you do fall, you will know it will hurt so you won't make excuses.

Be hungry to eat well.

Being fought and rubbed against friends at school, to learn to be flexible in interaction, not clinging to mother's skirt demanding protection.

Get bad grades, get punished for not preparing well, to know what you need to improve.

Being heartbroken makes you appreciate the love that comes after.

Stand on your own two feet, to know your strength and comfortably choose the path of life you need to take.

Being burdened with my own small family, to be able to become a capable father and mother, to hold my child's hand, to open each door for them to discover themselves.

All the 'beings' are actually 'gains'.

In this world, too much pink becomes gray, too much joy becomes sadness. Too much protection becomes waste. Waste of the lives of parents and children.

Don't say "Parents live for their children". Because when you are gone, how will the children live when the person who lived for them is no longer there?

Say, "Thank you for making our lives more meaningful. Live for yourself, but remember, we're always here when you need us."

Like when going out, you should put helmets on your children and teach them to drive carefully. Let God take care of the rest.

Because even when staying at home, the possibility of an accident can be higher than when traveling.

So don't worry, live for yourself. That is also living for your children.

According to VNE