'Don't live for your children, live for yourself'

Don't say 'Mom and Dad live for you'. Because when you're gone, how will your child live when the person who lived for them is no longer there?

Ms. Tran Huyen Thao, 37 years old, is a pediatrician in Ho Chi Minh City.Recently sharedDon't live for your children, live for yourself.Ms. Thao's post has caused a big stir in the online community. Up to now, after 5 days of posting, this share has received 4,500 likes, with 2,500 shares.

Dr. Huyen Thao is working at a pediatric clinic in Ho Chi Minh City. Her experience interacting with families has given her a completely new perspective.

As a mother of three young children and an office worker, Ms. Thao still often has her own space, when going to a coffee shop, meeting friends, traveling or simply holding her husband's hand for an evening walk... without the presence of her children.

In raising children, she emphasizes one thing: children must be willing and happy. Therefore, she never forces them. "Don't"Try to intervene and it's best to be the one to support, advocate and guide your children when needed, in the spirit of respecting their choices and needs," Ms. Thao shared.

From the above way of raising, her children, although still young, are all independent, each with their own personality.

Dr. Huyen Thao is also a thoughtful and understanding mother of 3 children.

Below is Dr. Thao's sharing:

There are parents who, every time their child is sick, look at the sick child once, then look at the sick parent ten times, thinking the patient is the parent, not the smiling child.

There are parents who, every time their child falls and hurts, feel heartbroken. They worry and feel 100 times more pain than the actual "severity".

There are parents who, when their children go to school and send them off, and the children cry, also cry, inside and out. They worry about whether their children will be treated well, whether they will integrate, whether they will have difficulties. They wish they could hold their children forever!

There are parents who worry that their children will fall when they run a little, when they jump a little, when they are afraid of falling, when they play in the water, when they are afraid of catching a cold, when they laugh a lot, when they get upset, when their children want to do this or that, they stop them first, because all the negative risks that can happen!

Worry from childhood to adulthood.

From being single, to having a family.

Worried to the point of wanting to intervene in everything.

Worry about things you can't control. Even though you know you can't control them, you still worry.

Worries are suffocating, both for the worrier and the "worrier".

Worry so much, forget to live for yourself.

When they get old and their children no longer "listen" to them, they blame them for being unfilial, because their parents have always lived for them, but now their children are not grateful to them.

Being a "worrying" person living in a state of supervision, carrying the burden of birth debt for life is as heavy as a rock crushing a person, having no time to live for oneself, to do what one wants, to be oneself and never growing up. Because in reality, one is never given the opportunity to grow up.

That is really not love, but selfishness, which hinders the growth and development of a person.

Because parents are the ones who give their children life, but should not live for them.

Because children need to have unhappy experiences in order to grow up.

Get sick to get healthy.

Fall painfully to learn from experience and not fall again. Or if you fall, you know it will hurt so you won't make a fuss and blame others.

Be hungry to eat well.

Having to compete and rub against friends at school, to learn to be flexible in interaction, not clinging to mother's skirt demanding protection.

Get bad grades, get punished for not preparing well, to know what you need to improve.

Be heartbroken to know how to cherish the love that comes later.

Stand on your own two feet, to know your strength and comfortably choose the path in life you need to take.

Being burdened with my own small family, to be able to become a capable father and mother, to hold my child's hand, to open each door for my child to discover himself.

All the 'beings' are actually 'gains'.

In this world, too much pink becomes gray, too much joy becomes sadness. Too much protection becomes waste. Waste of the lives of parents and children.

Don't say "Mom and Dad live for you". Because when you're gone, how will your children live when the person who lived for them is no longer there?

Say, "Thank you for making our lives more meaningful. Live for yourself, but remember, we're always here when you need us."

Like when going out, you should put helmets on your children and teach them to drive carefully. Let God take care of the rest.

Because even when staying at home, the possibility of an accident can be higher than when traveling.

So don't worry, live for yourself. That is also living for your children.

According to VNE