'Don't live for your children, live for yourself.'

Don't say, "Parents live for their children." Because when you're gone, how will your children live when the person who lived for them is no longer there?

Dr. Tran Huyen Thao, 37 years old, is a pediatrician in Ho Chi Minh City.Recently sharedDon't live for your children, live for yourself.Ms. Thao's post has caused a huge stir on social media. To date, after 5 days of being posted, it has received 4,500 likes and 2,500 shares.

Dr. Huyen Thao works at a pediatric clinic in Ho Chi Minh City. Her experience interacting with families who come for consultations has given her entirely new perspectives.

As a mother of three young children and a working professional, Thao still regularly finds time for herself, whether it's going for coffee, hanging out with friends, traveling, or simply strolling hand-in-hand with her husband in the evening... without the children around.

In raising her children, she emphasized that the children must be willing and happy to do so. Therefore, she never forced them. "Don't"I try to intervene and ideally be a supporter, encouraging and guiding my child when needed, while respecting their choices and needs," Thao shared.

Thanks to this parenting style, her children, though young, are all self-disciplined, each with their own unique personality.

Dr. Huyen Thao is also a caring and understanding mother of three children.

Here's what Dr. Thao shared:

There are parents who, when their child is sick, see their child's illness as one thing, but see themselves as ten times worse, thinking that the patient is the parent, not the child who is smiling brightly.

There are parents whose hearts ache every time their child falls and gets hurt. Their worry and sorrow are a hundred times greater than the actual severity of the injury.

There are parents who, when their child goes to school and cries, both the child and the parents cry, both inwardly and outwardly. They worry about whether their child will be treated well, whether they will fit in, or whether they will face difficulties. They wish they could protect their child forever!

Some parents worry even when their child runs a little for fear of falling, when their child jumps a little for fear of tripping, when their child plays in the water for fear of catching a cold, when their child laughs too much for fear of stomach upset, and they immediately discourage their child from doing this or that because of all the potential negative consequences!

He worried from a young age until he grew into a general.

From when I was single until I started my own family.

So worried that I want to interfere in everything.

Worry about things you can't control. Even though you know you can't control them, you still worry.

Worries are suffocating, both for the person worrying and for the person being worried about.

I was so worried that I forgot to live for myself.

When they get old and no longer see their children "obeying" them, they blame them for being unfilial, because the parents lived for their children all their lives, and now their children are not grateful to them.

Being a "burdened" person means living under constant supervision, carrying the heavy burden of parental debt throughout life, like a rock weighing you down. There's no time to live for yourself, to do what you want, to be yourself, and you never truly grow. Because, in reality, you're never given the chance to grow.

That is not true love, but selfishness, which hinders a person's growth and development.

While parents give their children life, they shouldn't live it for them.

Because children need to have unpleasant experiences in order to grow and mature.

Getting sick can make you healthier.

Getting hurt from a fall helps you learn from the experience and avoid stumbling again. Or, if you do stumble, you'll know it will hurt, so you won't complain or blame others.

Being hungry makes food taste better.

Being exposed to competition and interaction with peers at school teaches you how to be flexible and adaptable in real life, rather than clinging to your mother's skirts and demanding protection.

Getting low grades and being punished for not preparing well for lessons helps you understand what you need to improve.

Heartbreak teaches us to appreciate the love that comes after.

Being able to stand on your own two feet allows you to know your limits and freely choose the path in life you want to take.

Bearing the responsibility of raising my own small family, I strive to become a capable father and mother, to guide my child, and open doors for them to discover themselves.

All the things that are "suffered" are actually "benefits".

In this world, too much rosy color turns gray, too much joy turns into sadness. Excessive protection becomes a waste—a waste of the lives of both parents and their children.

Don't say, "Parents live for their children." Because when you're gone, how will your children live when the person who lived for them is no longer there?

Say, "Mom and Dad thank you for making our lives more meaningful. Live your own life, but remember, we'll always be there for you when you need us."

Just like when going out on the road, you should put a helmet on your children and teach them to ride carefully. Leave the rest to fate.

Because even staying home can increase the risk of accidents compared to traveling.

So stop worrying and live for yourself. That's also living for your child.

According to VNE