Emotional detachment - a threat to family happiness.

(Baonghean.vn) - Sexual apathy is the loss of sexual desire, the absence of or near-absence of interest in sexual activity. Sexual apathy doesn't only affect women; men can also suffer from it. This poses a significant threat to family happiness.

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Identifying signs:

1. Frequency decreases

When you first got married, you might have sex 2-3 times a week, or even more, but now you not only don't initiate sex but also lack enthusiasm when it comes to intimacy. This indicates a decrease in your libido.

2. Skip the foreplay.

Foreplay is always essential for a "perfect" sex experience. When making love, it's crucial to create foreplay that ecstasy and happiness for your partner, but you don't. When you make love, you jump straight into it without any foreplay.

3. Not proactive

When your partner has a need, you're ready to fulfill it. However, you're not as passionate or enthusiastic as usual. You do it out of a sense of responsibility, just to get it over with. Your initiative in this matter is decreasing. This can easily lead to your partner becoming bored and negatively impact your marital happiness.

4. Boredom in sex

This is similar to not having foreplay. Perhaps because you're too tired and lack desire, your performance is lackluster, and you have no intention of improving it, just letting things happen as they may without caring whether your partner reaches orgasm or not.

The reasons for this situation are:

- For women:

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Due to illness:Estrogen deficiency, especially during perimenopause or testosterone decline, can lead to sexual dysfunction. If hormone levels are adequately replenished, the condition can be cured. Additionally, gynecological and urinary tract infections, diabetes, and congenital defects can all affect sexual pleasure.

Due to vaginal abnormalities (too narrow or too short), followed by clitoral abnormalities (too small, too high, or with an overly thick foreskin), the ability to receive stimulation is reduced. The condition can be cured if the man helps the woman overcome these characteristics. In reality, abnormalities only account for 4-5% of cases. As for gynecological, urinary, and diabetes conditions, once treated, sexual pleasure will be restored immediately.

Psychological causes:Due to some indelible impressions: some people feel they are flawed and unable to satisfy their partner. Some, after an accident, feel guilty and dwell on it during sex, losing interest. Some women are influenced by religion: vows and oaths prevent them from experiencing ultimate pleasure during sex.

Many women find themselves losing interest in sex after giving birth, even though they were very sexually active before. This can stem from fatigue, sleepless nights and early mornings caring for the baby, or the many bodily changes after childbirth that make them feel insecure.

Certain past traumas (a female student being harshly scolded or punished by a teacher, a young woman being raped by a criminal...) have caused men to develop a deep-seated fear. The field of "Psychoanalysis" must investigate and research these causes in order to help them overcome their anxieties and recover.

Men generally have arousal times faster than women and usually achieve orgasm more easily. When men repeatedly experience premature ejaculation, it can lead to a lack of orgasm for the woman, creating a negative impression and feeling about sex, and ultimately causing frigidity.

- For men:

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Bad habits and vices:The husband's actions (alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, etc.) or the fading of affection or infidelity... can cause frigidity and make it progressively worse.

Pressure:In families, men are often the breadwinners, so in addition to work pressure, they also have to shoulder the significant responsibilities of family and relatives. If they experience excessive stress and fatigue, and their bodies become weakened, their libido will decrease or they will no longer be aroused enough for intimacy.

Furthermore, psychological discomfort can lead to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, or inability to ejaculate, and over time, they will feel tired, so falling into sexual apathy is understandable.

Age:Age also significantly affects sexual vigor. Age and sex are often directly proportional; the older a man gets, the more his sexual desire tends to decrease.

Medical conditions:People with conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, erectile dysfunction, etc., may feel hesitant to have sex, and over time this can affect their psychology, leading to a loss of libido.

Partner: Intimacy requires the cooperation of both partners. If the partner lacks the skills to work well together or doesn't care about the man's feelings, the quality of lovemaking will decrease, and over time, along with many other factors, the man may easily fall into frigidity as mentioned above.

If the underlying causes are addressed, then "sexual apathy" can likely be overcome without the need for any kind of "energy-boosting" medication.

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Due to personality or specific sexual needs, many people do not achieve pleasure with normal sexual activities. In such cases, it is necessary to clearly identify and discuss these sexual needs with their partner and work together to resolve the situation…

Besides psychological treatment and sharing with their partners, women can also supplement estrogen to enhance their lovemaking. Men, on the other hand, should balance their work to keep their minds relaxed and allow for rest. Regular and proper exercise will improve overall health and help restore and increase testosterone levels steadily, thereby improving libido. Men should also openly discuss their issues with their wives so that both partners can work together to overcome them.

Khanh Chi

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