Dancing in the Storm
(Baonghean.vn) - On my journey to turning 35, the biggest lesson I've learned is never to sit and wait for the storm to pass, but to be able to dance even when a thunderstorm is coming.
This highly figurative lesson is actually just a metaphor for an attitude towards life: taking control of one's own life through adaptability and optimism, even in the most difficult circumstances.
For a long time, I've realized that everyone lives with at least one sadness. There are so many sad things, often coming unexpectedly and without warning. Some sadness, at the time, seems the most terrible in the world, making us think no one could be sadder or more miserable than us. Faced with sadness, most of us feel helpless.
How many times have I asked myself: How do I get through these losses, hurts, brokenness, and resentments? But there's no way, no magic spell to erase the cracks in my heart. Only we ourselves can slowly feel them, accept everything as it is, and move past them with a forward-looking mindset. Don't run away, don't hide in a shell of excuses and pretense. What we need to do is learn to adapt to the pain and countless imperfections, "fight" them with honesty, and learn to live with the pain peacefully!
It sounds strange, but that "dancing" attitude has helped me through many difficult times in my life. Grief and pain don't disappear because we try to avoid them; on the contrary, they tend to swell, intensifying anxieties and insecurities, filling our minds with heavy burdens. To weather the storm, we must shed our heavy and dark baggage; the more we shed, the lighter our journey through it becomes.
"Dancing" in the storm also reflects an attitude of appreciating one's inner strength and positive values. When we're sad, we tend to compare ourselves to others, feeling envious and longing for everyone else's beautiful lives, feeling like we're the only ones suffering in the world. But in reality, the beautiful things we see might just be a facade, revealing bitterness beneath that surface that no one truly understands. Everyone has their own battle to fight, so stop comparing and focus more on yourself. Who knows, the life we despise might be something someone else admires.
Overcoming terrible grief sometimes doesn't require grand happiness, but simply gathering and cherishing the small, simple joys of each day. As long as we're alive, we can rejoice; as long as we're alive, there's a future; as long as we're alive, there's good fortune… And so, we "dance" through the storms of our hearts with the mindset of someone who believes in tomorrow, and before we know it, the storm will have passed…
