VTV female MC bravely declares same-sex love

Overcoming barriers of social prejudice as well as family opposition, MC Ngoc Trang is still happy with her same-sex lover.

Family opposition

After your first marriage broke down, did you have any other relationships before finding your true love, Lin Jay?

No. I had been separated for 3 years when I met Lin Jay. Actually, I had never needed a man in my life, but before that, I didn't feel clearly whether I was a lesbian or not. Until I met Lin Jay, I felt like I had found the person I loved, I just wanted to be faithful to her and no longer had feelings for men.

Ngoc Trang is a familiar MC of the programs Key to Success - CEO, Fun Shopping, Beautiful Magazine, VTV1 Art Space...

Can you tell us about your fateful meeting? How did you and Lin Jay meet?

Lin and I met by chance through a friend's introduction. When she heard that I complimented her appearance, she invited me to her house for dinner. When we first met, Lin called me "sister" and addressed herself as "em". She also told me about her life story. I felt that we had many similarities in personality and we became friends very naturally.

At that time, I did not intend to be in love, but just friends. But after a while of my divorce, both of us confided in each other with increasing frequency. At that time, we gradually felt our feelings for each other and after a year, we officially fell in love.

When you received a confession, you must have thought a lot before deciding to accept?

Honestly, I don’t feel too worried. Because to me, his personality is no different from a normal boy, he also likes to play video games, ride motorbikes very fast… All the emotions he gives me are just like a man, so I’m not too worried.

Furthermore, I am divorced, so legally, I am a very free person. Vietnamese law does not prohibit homosexuality. What I am most worried about is the family mentality, people are not used to it yet. However, fortunately, when I met Lin, I already had a baby boy. For those who have never been in love or married, having children will be very difficult and need to consider carefully before entering into homosexual love.

So, how did your family members react?

At first, when we were still friends, my parents talked to her normally, but when we decided to get together, the family also forbade and opposed. My mother said that for a woman, a broken marriage is completely understandable, but why didn't I love another man to get married, but chose to get married to someone of the same sex. That was no different from going to a dead end. My father himself had a more severe reaction. He was angry and opposed more strongly, criticizing me quite harshly.

In fact, I can completely sympathize with my parents. Since I was a child, my life has been a straight line: going to school, graduating from university, working, getting married, having children. Suddenly leaving my husband, at the age of 30, falling in love with a gay man. Which parents wouldn't be shocked? But I just explained that for Lin Jay, I found him to be a stopping point that made me feel safe at the moment. He himself is also very good to my son, so I feel very secure in choosing a suitable father for my child.

Now, after much persuasion, my parents can smile and greet Lin Jay in a friendly manner when they meet him. Although the atmosphere is not really comfortable, it also makes me more confident in my decision.

Son is the biggest obstacle

What about your son? Did it take him a long time to get used to your girlfriend?

Actually, I have not seen my son have any problems because he is still too young. But Lin's current appearance, as well as the way he acts and behaves, is very similar to a father who cares for his child. Every time he wakes up at night, Lin gently pulls the blanket over him. On the first day of school, Lin was even more excited than I was. Such small actions actually come from true love, and all the children can feel it, so my son also considers Lin as his second father.

MC Ngoc Trang is happy with her lover and son

Actually, when we first decided to get together, I thought Tom was the biggest obstacle in our relationship. Lin is only 22 years old, if she agrees to live with me and the baby, she will play the role of the breadwinner in the family. I cannot force Lin to love me and my child at the same time, that would be selfish. But fortunately, she loves the baby a lot and the two of us get along very well. I think that is the fate of both of us.

Are you afraid that living with your same-sex lover might affect your child's development?

Actually, I have thought about this problem, but Tom is a boy so it will be easier to guide his development. If he were a girl, it would be a big problem. Because Lin himself has the appearance and personality of a real man, my son will also learn toughness and strength from her.

We also prepared our child mentally by showing her pictures of Lin as a girl. At first, she didn't believe it, but after hearing her parents' explanation, she reacted very innocently, saying that if Lin's father was still a boy like now, then even if he had been a girl before, it would have been fine.

When he is a little older, we will explain to him that Lin's father is a trans guy so that he can understand more about gender issues. He needs to realize that although Lin is a normal person, no one wants to be born not to live as their true gender. Moreover, if I stay with his biological father, I will not have true happiness. He still gets to go home to play with his biological father often, and his father also attends parent-teacher meetings for him as usual. On the other hand, he has another father who loves him like his real father and makes me happy. I think he will understand and not affect the family's feelings just because of outside gossip.

"Lin has the appearance and personality of a real man, so my son will also learn toughness and strength from her" - MC Ngoc Trang

Furthermore, when Tom grows up, society will develop in a much more modern and open direction. Even if you go online to find out and express your doubts or even tease him, it won't be too terrible because people's thinking has changed and become more advanced.

Disagree with transgender lover

The prejudices about same-sex love in society once made you afraid when you decided to publicly announce your same-sex love on social media, after all you are a public figure, even working at a prestigious agency like VTV?

I'm notunder VTVso my work is not affected too much. For other relationships, when people understand me and want to cooperate with me, what they care about is my ability, not my personal life. That is why I still receive invitations to host programs because I still host well, attract and demonstrate my English ability in some bilingual programs.

Regarding relationships, if someone shows that they don’t need me, I will also show that I don’t need them. I have to understand clearly who is the most important person in my life. Right now, for me, Tom, my parents and Lin are my top priorities. As for those who are more reserved in relationships or make up stories and gossip because of my gender, maybe my fate with them is too short or has not come yet.

In fact, besides the supportive audience, you also face opinions that you are using love stories to promote your name. Do you want to explain anything about this?

I always keep in mind that I have to live honestly and uprightly. If I use my emotions to promote myself, it will eventually end. The important thing is that I am not that kind of person. Others can think whatever they want. The fame and money exchanged for that promotion are not worth as much as family and children. Why should I exchange my parents' sadness when my children live abnormally and disrupt the family order for those things? Why do I have to pay such a high price for gossip?

Previously, Lin Jay shared in the press that he would decide to have a mixed-race child in 2021, and then change gender. Have the two of you ever discussed these plans together?

Actually, Lin never intended to change gender. At first, when we first met, she asked me about breast surgery. But I didn't agree because I love Lin for her soul and personality, her body doesn't matter. Her current appearance is like a boy's, she can wear a bra without surgery. I think normal health is the most important.

As for having a mixed-race child, we will make the decision when we are really ready, not 2021. Because artificial insemination is very expensive. We have to take sperm from a foreign man, take Lin's egg and implant it into me so I can give birth. That way, the child born will be both of ours.

But at the moment, we are still considering, because such fertilization is not natural, my child is born without knowing exactly who the father is, what his origin is. I also cannot determine the intelligence of the egg donor. When the time is right, we will study carefully, but at present, Lin still considers Tom as her biological child and she is also very attached to Lin. That is enough.

According to Vietnamnet