Should husband and wife care more about each other than their children?

Writer Mike Berry shares his family story, and explains why his wife cares more about him than their children. He says this should be accepted by all families.

According to Brightside, his post was shared hundreds of thousands of times on forums around the world, with two opposing opinions. Some said it was a selfish way of life, but many said they were truly inspired because it changed their way of thinking:

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My wife and I have been married for 17 years and have adopted 8 children. We have been through this long enough for me to realize a lot of things.

Usually around 8:30 p.m., I remind my teenage daughters of the time. Then, 30 minutes later, I tell them it's time to go to their rooms. They often whine, "Why do we have to go to bed at 9? We're not kids anymore."

"I'm not telling you to go to bed right away, I'm just telling you to leave the living room. Mom and Dad haven't seen each other all day because we're busy. So we want to spend some time together," I explained to them.

We still love our angels, the children can always rely on us, seek support and help from their parents. My wife and I spend a lot of time with our children, but never 24/7.

Because beyond the kids, there is “us,” our relationship. Kris and I are constantly making sure that our marriage stays “strong and growing” every day. Here are three reasons why our relationship is so important:

1. A 'healthy' marriage is the foundation of a happy family

Children are part of the family, but not its main foundation. They are not the ones who balance this "chaotic structure". That is the responsibility of the parents. Only when the parents are happy and the marriage is peaceful, can the family members be united and love each other.

2. Before having children, the origin of a family is the love between husband and wife.

It was the husband and wife who laid the first bricks to build a family. And it was we who created everything, including children. Of course, when children come, everyone is very happy. But this marriage is also sacred. And everyone must do everything to protect it.

3. After the children grow up and have their own happiness, the family will still only have the husband and wife.

Nothing lasts forever, and the time will come when the children will grow up and have their own families. So when they have their own families and children, I want my relationship with my wife to be as warm and intimate as it was at the beginning. And to have such a future, we need to nurture the relationship now.

Parents who care, love and look after each other will be a typical example and model for their children to learn and follow when they get married. When children see their parents love each other, they are sure that they love them too.