Should spouses care more about each other than their children?

Author Mike Berry shared a story about his family and explained why his wife cares more about him than their children. He said this should be accepted by families.

According to Brightside, his article has been shared hundreds of thousands of times on forums around the world, sparking two opposing viewpoints. Some say it's a selfish lifestyle, but many others say they were genuinely inspired because it changed their way of thinking.

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My wife and I have been married for 17 years and adopted eight children. We've been together long enough for me to realize many things.

Usually around 8:30 p.m., I remind my two teenage daughters about bedtime. Thirty minutes later, I tell them it's time to go to their rooms. They usually whine, "Why do we have to go to bed at 9 o'clock? We're not kids anymore."

"I'm not telling you to go to bed right now, I'm just telling you to leave the living room. Mom and Dad haven't seen each other all day because we've been busy with work. So, we want to spend some time together," I explained to my children.

We've always loved our little angels; they can always rely on us, seeking support and help from their parents. My wife and I spend a lot of time with our children, but never 24/7.

Because beyond the children, there's "us," our relationship. Kris and I always have to make sure our marriage remains "strong and growing" every day. Here are three reasons why the marital relationship is so important:

1. A 'healthy' marriage is the foundation of a happy family.

Children are part of the family, but not the main foundation. They are not the ones to balance this "chaotic structure." That is the responsibility of the parents. Only when parents are happy and the marriage is harmonious will family members be close-knit and love each other.

2. Before having children, the foundation of a family is the love between husband and wife.

It was the husband and wife who laid the first brick in building their family. And it was we who created everything, including the children. Of course, everyone is very happy when they have children. But this marriage is also sacred. And everyone must do everything to protect it.

3. After the children grow up and have their own happiness, the family will still only consist of the two of them.

Nothing lasts forever; eventually, our children will grow up and have their own families. Therefore, when they have their own families and children, I want my relationship with my wife to remain as warm and intimate as it was from the beginning. And to have such a future, we need to nurture our relationship now.

Parents who care for, love, and look after each other will be a good example and role model for their children to learn from and emulate when they start their own families. When children see their parents loving each other, they are sure that their parents love them too.