10 things a smart wife absolutely does not ask of her husband

(Baonghean.vn) - After getting married, many people are disillusioned because their marriage is not as beautiful as they imagined. At that time, instead of finding a way to solve the problem, many people ask their spouse to change according to their wishes. This is a demand that never has the desired results. So, to have a happy married life, a smart wife will absolutely not ask her husband for the following things.

Don't look at other women

Men are always attracted to beauty, so if they see a beautiful girl walking by on the street, they will not be able to ignore it. Instead of criticizing your husband, accept it and consider it normal, beauty is worth cherishing. However, you can intervene immediately when he has rude actions such as teasing or flirting with the other girl.

Men cannot ignore beauty. Illustration photo

Force husband to choose between mother and wife

The issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal issue, however, you should not force your husband to choose: "Between your mother and me, who do you choose?", "Do you love me more or your mother more?" You should remember, after hearing this sentence, he will think that you are a selfish woman, you do not understand him. He will even think that you are a clumsy woman who cannot adjust the relationships in your husband's family.

Give up personal passion

Not only women but men also have their own passions, so give him some space to express himself. Even if it is just simple hobbies like playing football, watching movies, listening to music... but if it makes him more comfortable after stressful working hours, then you should respect him.

Having to give up a healthy passion is unacceptable. Illustration photo

Change as you wish

After getting married, many people are disillusioned because their marriage is not as beautiful as they imagined. At that time, instead of finding a way to solve the problem, many people ask their spouse to change according to their wishes. They even ask: "You have to do as I say", "You should stop that habit", "Can you talk less?",...

Instead of asking your husband to change, you should say gently: "I think that habit is not suitable", "I think you should rest a bit",... That way, your husband will feel like he has an important responsibility that needs to be completed, rather than simply feeling like he is being nagged by his wife.

Wanting her husband to become a different man

Comparing your husband with other men is taboo. Illustration photo

Sometimes when you are bored with your husband, you will think of comparing your husband with other men. But remember that one of the things that easily makes a man feel hurt is being compared with others with the aim of affirming that he is inferior to those around him.

Husband is strictly forbidden to meet friends

Just like you, your husband really needs relationships with friends to relax, to do business, to confide, to chat... There are many things that husband and wife cannot share, but same-sex friends will help us relieve. If you demand that your husband not meet friends anymore, it means you are making a big mistake in marriage: over-controlling your spouse. This cannot bring your husband's attention to you, but it also makes you and your spouse face a big battle.

Remember exactly all the important days of wife

Women tend to retain emotional memories better than men, so it's no wonder you remember your anniversaries, wedding anniversaries, birthdays, etc. clearly while your husband doesn't do that well.

A wise wife knows how to remind her husband before special occasions. Illustration photo

Instead of forcing your husband to remember exactly the anniversaries and important occasions, a wise wife knows how to remind her husband before those special occasions. There is no such thing as a heartless husband who does not remember all the special days with you, it is just that he is focused on more important issues such as work, money...

Share all hobbies with wife

Don't ask your husband to watch Korean movies all the time when his favorite is American action movies. There are moments in your life together that you should take advantage of to enjoy your own pleasures. These "separate" moments will help strengthen the connection between the two of you, help both of you feel comfortable and not easily bored with each other.

Listen to you confide like a close girlfriend

Your husband may listen to you during difficult times, but he's not always ready to listen to you vent. "Men and women have different goals when it comes to communication. Men are focused on analyzing and solving problems, while women are focused on expressing their feelings," says relationship expert David Bennett, author of "Eleven Dating Mistakes Women Make (And How to Correct Them).

According to him, if a woman demands that her husband be interested in hearing her "flirting", it will make the man feel bored and you will also feel bored when your "other half" is not interested in listening to your story.

Instead of forcing your husband to listen to everything, find a girlfriend to chat with. Illustration photo

You have to be more "adult" when you act like a child.

Being silent and cold or using "bans" (especially sex) to express anger towards him is extremely childish and counterproductive. Instead of coaxing you, he may respond with the same attitude. Silence and indifference complicates matters, only creating a negative vicious cycle, destroying the relationship by causing anger and resentment between the two of you.

If you feel like he owes you an apology, don't give him the silent treatment or give him the cold shoulder. Instead, be assertive with a statement: "I felt hurt when you ignored me and the things I said. I feel like you need to apologize for the way you treated me yesterday. Please don't do that to me again."

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