5 steps to help your child 'overcome obstacles'

The parents of Ha Tuan (8 years old, living in Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City) told a story about their son who looked very worried when he did his homework. When he encountered a difficult problem, he got discouraged, did not think of a way to solve it, and shouted loudly asking his parents to help him solve it.

Playing a little sport makes him tired. He almost doesn't want to try to do anything, just wants to rest and have fun.

In fact, if parents understand that the process of stimulating children to overcome obstacles does not only depend on the children, but also requires the companionship of adults: calmness, perseverance and love.

The process of stimulating children to overcome obstacles does not only depend on the children, but also requires the companionship of adults. Illustration photo

1. Children will strive to improve when they have the right motivation.

Many parents think that their children are not interested in studying because they do not have the will to strive to improve. Actually, this is a sentimental thought.

Children who do not study the knowledge in books or do not complete the exercises in textbooks do not necessarily mean that they are not diligent. For children, only what they are interested in is wonderful, only worth paying attention to and trying to conquer.

What is in books is sometimes dry and quite abstract, so it is not attractive to children. Therefore, the fact that children do not like to study or have not finished their homework does not mean that they do not have the will to strive to improve.

In reality, some children have the will to try but their learning results are not as expected. The main reason is that they do not have the motivation to learn and lack the necessary skills.

Parents need to quickly equip their children, help them choose appropriate learning methods, and not blame their children. At the same time, help children become interested in scientific knowledge through interesting approaches such as learning in practice, learning during trips...

Children need to understand that learning and participating in activities is for their own improvement, to become useful people for society, not to study for their parents.

2. Parents must believe that their children will progress.

Many parents do not believe that their children can "break through" to succeed. This can hurt their self-esteem, even weaken them, and make them ready to accept failure.

Sometimes children intentionally do wrong things, actually to attract the attention of adults. Parents, because they do not understand their children, make wrong judgments.

3. Absolutely do not tease or make fun of children to discourage them.

Teasing, mocking children, and even making fun of their mistakes are completely wrong and affect their self-esteem. In education, avoid prejudices like: "You want to be an artist? Who would dare to look at your paintings?" This has a very negative impact on children's ability to succeed.

On the contrary, when children show signs of progress or work effectively, if they are encouraged promptly by their parents, their enthusiasm, confidence and will to strive to improve will be further enhanced.

4. Stimulate children's curiosity

Curiosity and the desire to explore the objective world are the stimulants for children's efforts to improve. Depending on each field, parents help children identify their best abilities and explore to improve their understanding.

5. Help children build long-term goals

Parents listen and help children understand which needs can be satisfied and which needs cannot be met. From there, guide children to identify clear intentions, and at the same time make plans for children based on legitimate needs, suitable to actual conditions.

But it is also necessary to make children understand that they should not confuse the will to break through with the competitive nature, using any means to succeed.

In short, parents need to share so that their children realize that on each person's life path, whether it is thorny or smooth sailing, the important thing is not to surpass others, but to surpass oneself.