5 important moments in children's lives that parents need to withdraw promptly

Recently, a father took a photo of a note on his daughter's door and sent it to a group of friends complaining: "My daughter is leaving me out." It turned out that his 7-year-old daughter had written a note on the door: Parents are not allowed to enter my room without permission.

The father's friends teased him, but also congratulated him: "This is a good sign. A child who knows how to protect his private space, as well as clearly refuse, will definitely grow up to be a strong person.

After hearing this, the father felt even more lost. Because he was not ready to leave his daughter's world. He had to reluctantly accept that "his daughter had grown up".

No matter how sad we are, we have to accept the fact that there will be times when parents will have to let go and let their children swim in their own world. Before the child turns 12, there are 5 important times when parents should withdraw in time, according toSina.

3 years old let children eat by themselves

A mother said that when her daughter first went to kindergarten, she ate like she was starving after school. Feeling sorry for her child, the mother worried that the food at school was not clean, not enough, or that her child did not eat on time. Before the mother asked the teacher, the teacher took the initiative to text: "Your child is very active, when feeding time comes, she runs east, then west, I can't catch her."

After hearing that, the mother felt a little embarrassed by her thoughts. This scene was too familiar at home and the mother was always worried that her child would not be able to eat because she was too young. As a result, her daughter would not be able to eat independently when she was 3 years old. There are many kindergarten children who would go hungry without the help of teachers.

Children are often spoon-fed. In addition to making it difficult for them to eat independently, spoon-feeding makes them dependent on adults. If you do not feed them, they will not know what to eat and how much to eat. This inadvertently causes them to lose the opportunity to judge how much is enough to eat, when they are hungry, when they are full. In general, children who eat well will be disadvantaged wherever they go.

On a reality show, a Chinese actress once shocked the audience when she revealed that she spent 7 hours a day watching her son eat and that one month she raised her son to gain 2.5 kg.

Eating is a child's own business. Please return this "right" to the child. Starting from the age of one, parents can guide the child to take food with their hands. Use simple tableware to practice around the age of two, and by the age of three, they can eat independently. Let the child experience the gentle smell of grains, the crispness of vegetables, and the deliciousness of soup, so that the child can feel the appeal of a meal.

5 years old sleep alone

There is a 29-year-old man in Guangzhou who has to sleep with his mother every night. Otherwise, he cannot sleep, and every time he is away from his mother, he has to take sleeping pills. Because of this habit, he does not dare to have a girlfriend. It turns out that when he was young, his family was cramped, so he slept with his parents until he was 10 years old, and by then he could not sleep alone without his mother.

Sleeping with parents for a long time will make children dependent, less independent, and emotionally vulnerable. According to psychologists, 5 years old is suitable for children to separate rooms because children's psychology has become relatively aware and their sexual psychology has also developed.

Although every child is different, parents can gradually increase the time between sleeping with their child from age 3 and separate them completely when they are 5 and 6.

6 year old out of the bathroom

0-6 is an important time for children's sex education. Before the age of 3, the bathroom is a warm space and European, American or Japanese parents often choose it for sex education. After the girl turns 3, the father is no longer suitable to bathe her, but the mother can still help her son bathe until the age of 5 or 6.

However, regardless of whether the child is a boy or a girl, at the age of 6, they will feel embarrassed and awkward when there is another person in the bathroom. At this time, parents should take the initiative to leave and respect their child's privacy. Let the child learn to bathe independently.

8 years old out of the child's private space

A little girl slammed the door during an argument with her mother. “Why did you slam the door?” the mother asked. The girl screamed, “I just want some peace and quiet. Don’t bother me. Please go out.”

The mother was shocked. Her little daughter no longer wanted to be held when she cried, no longer wanted to be spoiled like usual. Instead, the mother woke up to the fact that she had been pushed away from her child.

Studies have shown that 7 to 8 years old is the appropriate age for children to be alone. From the age of 7, parents should let their children stay in their own room. Do not enter the room without permission because it will make children feel that their space is controlled.

Chinese netizens have been discussing heated situations where parents have entered children's rooms without knocking, with more than half of the parents saying they do not like doing this.

Knocking on the door, a seemingly simple act, is actually respecting a child's privacy. This sense of boundary will put a child at ease. A child who is respected can learn to respect others.

12 years old out of the kitchen

From 2-3 years old, children can do some things according to their ability. At 12 years old, children have enough awareness and ability to practice safety. At this time, parents can leave the kitchen to rest and let children cook simple meals.

Don't worry about your child getting cut or burned. Don't blame your child for messing up the kitchen. Letting your child overcome these small difficulties will help him or her develop independent living skills.

Yes, a child will grow up and eventually leave their parents' lives.

At 3 years old, you can leave the table and let your child learn to eat by himself.

At 5, you leave the bedroom, letting your child learn to embrace the night.

At age 6, leave the bathroom to let your child know his or her body boundaries.

8 years old leave the bedroom to teach children to respect privacy.

12 years old, leave the child in the kitchen, let the child learn to live independently.