7 actions that destroy marriage that men often commit
Not talking to wife, often criticizing wife, only caring about wife when wanting to do "that thing"...
These are very dangerous behaviors for marriage, according to the list ofTheAsianParent. The following behaviors, although sometimes committed by women, are very common among men. If you want to preserve your marriage, you should avoid them.
1. No communication
Because of the way men are raised, they often have trouble talking about their feelings. This makes it difficult to resolve marital conflicts. Even when it is necessary to talk, some men tend to withdraw into themselves, becoming like stone walls.
Meanwhile, the person who is being refused to talk feels disrespected. This behavior leads to resentment building up, and the result for the couple is often separation and divorce.
2. Ignore and abandon your wife
Your wife married you because she wanted to spend the rest of her life with you. If you spend most of your time at the office, then blow off steam at a bar with your coworkers, then come home and just watch TV, it's a sure sign that you don't value your wife.
Don’t let your wife feel alone and abandoned. If you feel like your marriage isn’t what it should be, spend more time with it instead of leaving. Just as you should be number one in your wife’s life, she should also be your top priority.
3. Always criticize your wife
There's a big difference between voicing a concern and making a personal attack. It could be that you have high expectations that your wife can't meet, and then you compare her to other women.
No wife likes to be compared to "someone else's wife". Photo:theasianparent |
Instead of focusing on every little thing your wife does that you don't like, focus on her strengths and lift her up. Once you get into the habit of looking for the good in your wife, you can stay away from the destructive habit of criticism.
4. Treat your wife like a sexual tool
If you only pay attention to your wife when you want sex, she will notice right away. It is best to prioritize establishing an emotional bond and trust before demanding physical intimacy, so that sex can be satisfying. Also, when you are in bed with your wife, you should not only think about your own needs, you should remember that your wife's pleasure is equally important.
5. Not controlling your temper
You may be a loving husband but have a very hot temper and a fierce temper. You can and should change. Anger is a normal human emotion, but you should express it in healthy ways. You can manage your anger by recognizing it, taking deep breaths, and thinking before you react. Don’t say or do anything that will seriously hurt your loved ones.
6. Never do housework
According to a study by the London School of Economics, marriages thrive when the husband does his share of the housework. If you are the breadwinner, it doesn’t mean you come home and lie around while your wife is busy with the housework and the kids. She is not your maid, she is your partner and you are a team.
7. No apology
An apology is a sign that you are willing to seek peace and harmony with your wife. Apologizing does not make you a “loser” and your wife, the recipient of the apology, a “winner.” Apologizing is not a sign of weakness. It is a way to heal and get your marriage back on track.