7 things parents should give up if they want their children to succeed

Children will be stressed if they always have to be "number one" to please their parents.

Tying your child down with too many rules and expectations can cripple their confidence and creativity. Here are 7 things you must give up so your child can grow up healthy, happy and free, according to Lifehack:

Tell your child to do things

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Of course children need guidance when learning about the world around them, but imposing unnecessary instructions on them will inhibit and hinder their creativity.

This applies to everything from the games and clothes they choose to the careers they pursue. Research published in the journal Sociological Spectrum found that children whose parents gave them more freedom were less anxious, depressed, or unsuccessful in college than those who were overly controlled or controlled.

Unrealistic expectations

Remember that no one is perfect. Children will be stressed if they always have to be "number one" to satisfy their parents. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Understand your child and appreciate their unique talents.

Overprotection

If you are a worrier, don’t impose this on your parenting style. Children need the freedom to have new experiences and make mistakes. If you always stop your child from being active and exploring because you are afraid of putting them in danger, they will think that the world is not safe. As a result, they will be reluctant to take risks later on.

Decision on behalf of the child

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To be successful, everyone needs to know that making good decisions is an important skill. This ability needs to be developed from a young age. Help your child make choices, whether it’s a hobby or choosing a college, but make sure your child understands that he or she will ultimately be responsible. In his 2014 book Excellent Sheep, researcher Bill Deresiewicz asserts that parents who are too involved in their children’s education increase the risk of depression, anxiety, and fear of failure in children later in life.

Scold when children make mistakes

Unless it was a specific mistake that was a poor decision, try not to be overly critical of your child. Making mistakes is part of the learning process. Sit down with your child and talk about what he or she can learn from the mistake and make better choices next time.

Praise your child's intelligence

Praising children for being good will give the impression that you are praising them for a fixed trait and that does not motivate them to strive to improve themselves.

Setting too many rules in the family

Families should have some necessary rules so that children know the limits and what is right and wrong. However, too many requirements make children always feel afraid. Moreover, this can also stifle children's creativity when they feel like they are just a cog in the family machine that always has to follow a certain track.

Research by psychologists at the University of Colorado-Boulder shows a link between being closely monitored as a child and a lack of self-determination as an adult.

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