8 lessons to avoid being manipulated by others

Enlightened by the 8 life lessons below, you may experience a very different life.

» When we live the life… that others want

Living in this world, everyone must study to practice, study to become a human being. Studying is a lifelong thing, and learning to become a human being has no concept called "graduation".

After all, people spend their whole lives studying just to make their lives better. If you want to enjoy a peaceful life, you definitely cannot help but learn the 8 qualities below.

1. Learn to cultivate your mind

A man's personality will affect the career he builds. A woman's personality will affect marital happiness.

Don't say "mountains and rivers are hard to change, nature is hard to leave", as long as you cultivate your mind and character every day, no matter how bad your personality is, it can gradually improve.

A great Thai man once said:"As long as you have a good personality, everything will naturally be fine."

He once shared:"Many people who come here have asked me: 'Is my career going well?'; 'Is my family happy?'; 'How are my children'; 'How is my love life?'...We just answer them one question: 'Is the person's character good or not?'

Personality determines attitude and attitude determines a person. Don't think that personality is something "inborn", you are the one who determines your personality.

2. Learn to be emotional

When you see good things in others, be happy for them. When you see people's efforts, be moved with them.

Touching is kindness, a deep emotion that only those with a kind and sympathetic heart can understand.

Throughout the decades of life, there are many stories and words that move us.

Because being moved is a wonderful feeling, learn to be moved with others, and try to do things that move others.

What brings people closer together is not money, nor power, it is simply two words "touching".

3. Learn to survive

To survive in this life, we must learn to make ourselves strong both physically and mentally.

Growing up healthy is a way for us to repay our parents for giving birth and raising us. Being strong and independent is a way for us to protect the people who love us in life.

Because life will always find a way to knock us down, and our loved ones always hope we will be strong, so there is no other way, we have to make ourselves strong.

Only by making yourself strong can you do what you want. Survival is not a matter of luck, survival is always a choice.

4. Learn patience

The ancients have a saying:"Be patient and the wind and waves will calm down. Take a step back and the sky and sea will be vast."It means to be patient and persistent for a moment and all difficulties will pass.

Living in this world, the person who can endure what others cannot endure is the one who can accomplish great things. Learning the word patience, when encountering difficulties, will always be able to resolve them, not because of haste that things will be ruined, helping us to always see clearly the good and evil, the good and the bad in this life.

Like someone once said:"Life is actually like that. When you feel your heart is dead, your mind is cold, and you are sinking deep into the dark swamp, God will suddenly bring you a ray of hope, and everything will suddenly be better.So you must be patient, a little more patient, just a little more…”

5. Learn to admit mistakes

When faced with mistakes, the true nature of each person is revealed. When making a mistake, a decent person will readily admit it, while a mean person will only try to blame others.

In fact, never admitting mistakes is the biggest mistake in life. Admitting mistakes to anyone, whether it is your children, relatives or outsiders, is always the right thing to do when you make a mistake.

Sincerely admitting mistakes not only does not take anything from us, but also increases our value in the eyes of others, helping us become honest and generous people.

6. Learn to empathize

All the gossip and disputes in this life all originate from selfishness.

The modern Chinese literary author Jiu Bao Dao once wrote:

"Sympathy is not a noble quality, but the starting point of the most basic kindness in the human soul."

To have a peaceful life, the most important thing is to learn to sympathize and understand. Because of understanding, we can be compassionate…

7. Learn to let go

Letting go is actually a kind of strength.

In the work "Halfway lonely", author Nguyen Ngoc Thach once wrote:"A person's hand is not big enough to hold everything he wants, so in some cases, he needs to learn to let go of some things, to keep more important things. The same goes for the human heart."

In life, there are many things that are like sand, no matter how tightly you hold on to them, they will still slip through your fingers and leave you. Learning to let go of things that do not belong to you is like letting go of the burdens you carry on your shoulders.

Pain and longing will only last a moment. Once you put down your obsessions, you will see how peaceful and serene life is.

8. Learn to be gentle

Becoming gentle in character is considered the greatest achievement of the process of "cultivating the mind".

Only when people are gentle can they regain peace in life. If they are always stubborn and do not know that gentleness will ultimately only cause them to suffer.

Stubborn people have hearts and personalities as hard as iron. Teaching them to behave gently and politely is as difficult as taming wild horses.

But when they learn this, they realize that life doesn't always require them to push themselves as hard as they used to.

According to Cafebiz