Do you know how hard it is to live with an addict?

(Baonghean.vn)- A singer went online to talk about his suffering because of his gambling-addicted mother. Yet many people came to criticize him. Do they know how hard it is to live with an addict?

Have you ever been addicted? Have you ever lived with an addict? Surely many people will be very happy when the answer is no, others will be sad with yes. In general, people, being addicted, is suffering for themselves, suffering for others, is costly, is unclear,...

A drunk man brought his motorbike to Chuong Duong bridge and burned it. Photo: Internet.

Drug addiction, gambling, alcohol, are addictions that make family life and relationships darker and darker, like a dead end. As friends, husbands, and wives who are addicted, people often end that relationship more gently. But for parents and children, that ending is very difficult, if not impossible.

Not to mention when the addiction comes, they also mortgage their children and lives, at that time their relatives will be very crazy and very desperate.

Can you imagine, if you are working hard, then one morning you wake up and there are countless people coming to collect debts that were caused by your loved one's addiction? Can you imagine if that continues for months or even days? It makes you always afraid.

If you hold back and hide for the sake of reputation, mistakes will continue to be made. I think we should fight and speak out, but how to speak out to minimize the pain for our loved ones is up to each person.

I have a friend whose father is an alcoholic, constantly beats his wife and children, the house is dilapidated, his wife and children are sick,... He gets drunk almost every day, every time he gets drunk he curses, if his wife and children are silent he says they despise their husband and father, but he doesn't say anything.

But if she said just one word, he would consider her rude and beat her severely. There were times when her mother had to cover her ears to not hear, but he would not let her be quiet, he would lift her ears, pull her hair and beat her to make her listen. On Tet, holidays or any day, she and her mother had to escape his beatings, even on her daughter's wedding day, he planned to "scoop up" her in-laws.

After the wedding, she had to endure the criticism of her husband's family. At that time, she also wished that she did not have such a father, but in the end, she still had to love him and provide him with safe alcohol, because she was worried that he would get sick from drinking bad alcohol. But when she got too mad, she screamed at herself and said: I cannot live, I argued with him, I said things that a child should not say... but I cannot bear it forever. Well, that's it! Not saying it is also hard to bear it forever, saying it is a sin of insulting one's parents.

Speaking of this, I remember the story of a singer who brought up the story of his mother owing him tens of billions. The story was exposed, some sympathized, others despised. Well, it is true that "everyone's mouth" but I think, that is a common human story, no one can hold hands all day long, but consider it as your own blessing or curse if you are like that or get that...

Therefore, we should not judge other people's lives with heartless and spiteful words. Because who lives their lives? How does a snail know that its body is covered with moss?

Saying that is not to defend the singer, or to side with them in thinking that the singer was right to announce his family affairs to the public. Because as a human being, one can sympathize, but as a man over 40 years old, a famous person like that, one must also understand the price of relatives when facing public opinion, especially the person who gave birth to them.

If I or if you were in someone else’s position, how would you behave? Because after all, each person has their own ego, their own self. However, if things keep happening to us, we should acknowledge and resolve them before telling someone about our own suffering.

But anyway, no one is perfect, that's why we have something to discuss today. I was happy when my best friend called and said: she had built a house and moved her parents to the city. Her father was still an alcoholic but didn't drink much, didn't get drunk, and didn't curse anymore. I thought to myself, everything would be fine in the end, if it's not fine, it's not the end./.

Mai Hoang