Do you know how miserable it is to live with an addict?

(Baonghean.vn)- A singer went online to talk about his suffering because of his gambling-addicted mother. Yet many people criticized him. Do they know how hard it is to live with an addict?

Have you ever been addicted? Have you ever lived with an addict? Surely many people will be very happy if the answer is no, others will be sad if it is yes. For people in general, being addicted is suffering for oneself, suffering for others, is costly, is unclear,...

A drunk man brought his motorbike to Chuong Duong bridge and burned it. Photo: Internet.

Drug addiction, gambling, alcohol, are addictions that make family life and relationships increasingly dark, like a dead end. As friends, husbands, and wives who are addicted, people often end that relationship more gently. But for parents and children, that ending is very difficult, if not impossible.

Not to mention when the addiction comes, they also mortgage their children and lives, at that time their relatives will be very crazy and very desperate.

Can you imagine, if you are working hard, one morning you wake up and there are countless people coming to collect debts that were caused by your loved one's addiction? Can you imagine if that continues for months or even days? It makes you always afraid.

If you hold back and hide it for the sake of reputation, mistakes will continue to be made. I think we should fight and speak out, but how to speak out to minimize the pain for our loved ones is up to each person.

I have a friend whose father is an alcoholic, beats his wife and children constantly, the house is dilapidated, his wife and children are sick... He gets drunk almost every day, every time he gets drunk he curses, if his wife and children are silent he says he despises her husband and father and doesn't say anything.

But if she said just one word, he would consider her rude and beat her severely. There were times when her mother had to cover her ears to not hear, but he would not calm down, he would lift her ears, pull her hair and beat her to make her listen. On Tet, holidays or any day, she and her mother had to escape his beatings, even on her daughter's wedding day, he planned to "scoop up" her in-laws.

After the wedding, she had to endure the criticism of her husband's family. At that time, she also wished that she did not have such a father, but in the end, she still had to love him and provide him with safe alcohol, because she was worried that he would get sick from drinking bad alcohol. But when she got too mad, she screamed at herself and said: I cannot live, I argued with him, I said things that a child should not say... but I cannot bear it forever. Well, that's it! Not saying it out loud is also difficult, saying it out loud is an insult to one's parents.

Speaking of this, I remember the story of a singer who brought up the matter of his mother owing up to tens of billions. The story was exposed, some sympathized, others despised. Well, it is true that "the world's mouth" but I think, that is a common human story, no one can hold hands all day long, but consider it as your own blessing or misfortune if you are like that or get that...

Therefore, we should not judge other people's lives with heartless and spiteful words. Because who lives their lives? How does a snail know that its body is covered with moss?

Saying that is not to defend the singer, or to side with them in thinking that the singer was right in announcing his family affairs to the public. Because as a human being, one can sympathize, but as a man over 40 years old, a famous person like that, he must also understand the price of his relatives when facing public opinion, especially the person who gave birth to him.

If I or you were in someone else’s shoes, how would you behave? After all, each person has their own ego and self. However, if something keeps happening to us, we should acknowledge it and resolve it before telling someone about our personal suffering.

But anyway, no one is perfect, that's why we have something to discuss today. I was happy when my best friend called and said: she had built a house and moved her parents to the city. Her father was still an alcoholic but he didn't drink much, didn't get drunk, and didn't curse anymore. I thought to myself, in the end everything would be okay, if it's not okay, it's not the end./.

Mai Hoang