Being threatened too much, children will become emotionally numb.

If the child doesn't eat, they'll threaten to lock him in a dark room. If the child doesn't take medicine, they'll threaten to go to the doctor for an injection. If the child doesn't do homework, they'll threaten not to let him go out. Many parents are teaching their children by threatening them without knowing that threatening them for a long time will have unpredictable consequences.

There are many children who refuse to sit still at mealtimes. Being lazy eaters, they always find ways to avoid eating. Sometimes they jump on the chair, sometimes they crawl on the floor. Parents often have to resort to drastic measures such as threatening their children.

Children will be scared if parents abuse threatening them.

Teaching children to obey is a source of anxiety for many parents. Many parents admit to using threats when their children do not listen. Depending on the level and circumstances, the most "typical" threats are: calling the police to lock them up in the station, threatening to ask a doctor to inject them into their mouths, locking them in a dark room...

“I often threaten my child that if he doesn’t eat, he won’t be allowed to go to the park or buy a new dress. Or if he doesn’t eat, I’ll film him and send it to his teacher at school to show to his friends… At first, he ate it all the time, but then it was back to normal!”, a mother lamented.

Not all threats are wrong, but according to psychologists, abusing this teaching method will cause unpredictable consequences for children. Master Nguyen Thi Hai Yen (Academy of Educational Management) said that threatening children too much shows the parents' inability to raise them. "The immediate effect may be that the child will listen, but in the long run, the child will suffer serious psychological effects such as fear, lack of confidence or emotional numbness due to being threatened too much," Ms. Yen said.

So what should parents do?

Parents should learn how to be friends with their children.

According to Master Nguyen Thi Hai Yen, parents need to control their anger as much as possible and be patient with their children. Here are some things parents should keep in mind:

- Be patient and patient: Control your anger, never take it out on others. Explain to your children, analyze the good and bad aspects. At first, your children may not listen right away, but gradually they will absorb and listen.

- Be friends with your child: Mother and child whisper before bedtime, when going out. Mother should apologize to the child for being angry, but analyze for the child to understand right and wrong. With older children, need to patiently explain the benefits of studying hard, encourage and stimulate the child's potential and interest. When children are encouraged promptly, they will be interested.

- Spend more time with your children: Instead of forcing your children to listen to you, parents should listen to their children to understand what they are thinking. From there, they can find appropriate ways to educate their children.

- Parents talk to each other, find parent groups such as parent associations, neighborhood women's groups... share to find the most suitable method to educate their children.

According to PNVN