The “10 no” secret of a mother whose 3 children got into prestigious Stanford University
"10 no's" are not overly complicated or investment-demanding tasks or actions, but are just everyday actions that have great significance in shaping children's personalities and outlook on life.
Tran My Linh is a 61-year-old mother from Hong Kong (China), with 3 children who studied at Stanford University - the most prestigious university in the US. With her practical experience in raising successful children, she has come up with a very simple yet effective "10 no" secret.
Born in Hong Kong, Tran My Linh became famous as a singer at the age of 14. When she became a youth idol, she did not have much time to study. When Tran My Linh's parents knew about it, they advised her: "Fame and money are like flowing water, coming and going, only education is the most precious thing in your life."
![]() |
Tran My Linh, her husband and three talented sons all study at the prestigious Stanford University. |
The teachings of her parents helped My Linh awaken. She decided to give up her singing career at the peak of her career and enrolled at the University of Toronto, majoring in Child Psychology.
In 1986, My Linh got married in Japan and gave birth to three sons. In September 2017, her youngest son followed in the footsteps of his two older brothers and entered the prestigious Stanford University in the United States. Tran My Linh is also a Stanford University graduate, so people affectionately call her family "a family of four".
"Stanford Mom" confided that she does not expect much pressure from her children: "I hope that they will keep a good heart, love their work, be happy in life, persevere to the end, know how to help others, know when to stop, be independent and find someone who loves them."
My Linh believes that for a child, preschool education is the most important and affects their entire future. Below are the “10 no’s” when raising children from a Hong Kong mother:
1. Don't compare your child with other people's children.
If you compare too much, your child will lose confidence and will not dare to show his or her potential in front of his or her parents. If your parents underestimate your abilities, your child may start arguing with other people's children.
2. Rewards for children are not materialistic.
Children are interested in toys for about 2 or 3 days. After that, they will get bored and throw them aside. Toys are never a child's permanent friend. Parents should suggest rewards that stimulate interest and help connect family members.
3. Don't be strict with your child's schedule.
Many mothers who teach their children will set a fixed schedule every day. Tran My Linh thinks that is too strict with children. Her secret is not to make a clear distinction between studying and playing, this helps children feel that studying is not scary.
4. Don't let your child participate in too many extracurricular classes.
Instead of spending time taking children to extracurricular classes, she advises parents to take their children out with the family, which will be better for the child's development.
5. Don't make decisions for your child.
Parents should let their children decide everything for themselves, even choosing a school. Parents should not interfere and respect their children's decisions.
6. Don't object to high school romance.
Encourage your children to be responsible for their girlfriends, because love will help children feel love and how to love others. At the same time, parents should teach their children about sex early.
7. Don't beat or scold your children.
Scolding children is not advisable, instead explaining their mistakes is the best way to educate them.
8. Don't lie to your children.
Parents should keep their promises to their children, otherwise children will think that their parents are liars. If children no longer believe in promises, their future life will be very lonely.
9. Don't abandon your children because of work.
The time a mother spends with her child is heaven and has a huge influence on the child's future.
10. When your child asks a question, don't make him wait.
Parents should be willing to answer all their children's questions. If they come across a question they don't know the answer to, work with your child to find the answer.
Tran My Linh's extremely simple parenting secrets have made listeners extremely satisfied. Her sharing has received tens of thousands of likes and shares just a short time after being posted.