What should parents do when their children watch 'adult movies'?

Adult movies are always in every child's pocket. But for a high school teacher, it is something that makes her really worried.

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The teacher's son is 13 years old, 152cm tall, 46kg in weight. He often watches porn. Recently his personality has changed a lot. She has read many books and followed the instructions, but it is not effective.

As a doctor, I have come across many stories of children watching adult films. In fact, sex films are nothing new to post-pubescent teenagers, but they cause surprise and embarrassment to countless parents across the country.

According to a study cited by many prestigious newspapers in the world, up to 42% of children aged 10-17 still watch sex films within 12 months. Other studies show that the age of watching sex films is decreasing, children as young as 8 have started watching.

My generation didn't have the internet when they were 13, but that didn't stop kids from being exposed to sex, even much earlier than adults imagined.

In 6th grade, I saw my neighborhood friends telling each other what their parents did every night. Most of the children listened and told stories simply out of curiosity, wanting to show that their knowledge was not inferior to the others.

But for some precocious teenagers, there will be times when they are sexually aroused when no one is around. And that is the reason they invite each other to bed to do adult things.

When I was in 7th grade at the village school, I witnessed my classmates secretly passing around pornographic stories to each other. The upperclassmen who were held back always had in their bags a deck of cards with sharp color pictures of nude boys and girls.

My friends often invited each other to skip school and go to the bushes near the school, pick leaves and spread them as cushions, then in pairs do adult things. During the camping trip on March 26th in 8th grade, I even saw with my own eyes my friends taking advantage of the opportunity to have sex with each other, right behind the bushes.

I brought all these things home to ask my mother. But with her limited knowledge, she could only tell me that sex was an adult matter, not suitable for students.

My mother told me to pay attention, friends who have relationships early will have poor academic performance. And I found what she said to be very true. In class, students do not pay attention to lectures, do not complete homework, and even the easiest knowledge quickly becomes difficult.

Another thing that my mother reminded me is that the body is still growing, if you indulge in sexual matters, it will make the children lose the opportunity to develop. The teacher's child is an example, the 13-year-old child weighs 1kg more than the standard, but is 4cm shorter, the risk of being overweight and obese is right before your eyes.

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Modern medicine has proven that one of the important causes of reduced height is early puberty. Most short people will have difficulty seeing far and their legs are not steady enough to walk out into the world.

I will never forget the images of more than 30 years ago, the small men in the village invited each other to walk silently at night, traveling dozens of kilometers to the video shop to watch adult movies. There were a few boys running after them, they were my peers, today they are struggling with life behind the green bamboo hedges.

Life is very different today, children do not need to go that far, they just need to step off the path they are on, and there will be pornographic pictures or books. Just one click, a series of adult movies will appear right before their eyes.

That is the reason why children's innocence is lost sooner and later.
Pornography has been around for centuries, it’s a problem that challenges everyone. When you’re a kid, you use porn as a substitute for real life experiences. But when you grow up, you use real life experiences as a substitute for fantasy.

Obviously, pornography is harmful to children, but that doesn’t change the fact that children are exposed to pornography quite often. So how should parents react when they discover their children are accessing pornographic material on the internet?

I think the most important thing is for parents to help children avoid temptation instead of resisting it. Tell children about the harmful effects of porn, like the simple sentences my mother explained to me. Remember that what children think is not as important as what they do. Watching porn is just on the screen, but children finding ways to have sex with the opposite sex is a serious problem.

That is why parents need to take preventive measures. It is like a swimming pool, setting up fences and warnings of dangers is always a must.

If you discover that a child under 18 has intentionally accessed pornographic material, it is wrong and must be stopped immediately, and any content stored on your computer or smartphone must be deleted. In some countries, minors can be prosecuted for sending pornographic images to another child.

Don't overreact, but be firm. The first offense may be a warning, or a mild punishment such as not being allowed to use the computer or phone for a few days. If repeated offenses are detected, the punishment will be more severe. It may be necessary to set up filters to block pornography, but it is necessary to explain clearly to the child why you are doing this, and the software will only be removed when the child has changed his or her mind.

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Apples usually do not fall too far from the tree.

The best way to educate children is for parents to show their closeness to their children. In Western families, at least one parent spends 6 hours a day with their children, doing household chores with them, discussing issues of concern, and reading stories to them before bedtime.

On the contrary, our parents are busy working to earn money and busy with other concerns. When children come home, they go into their rooms and close the door, only looking at computers, TVs and phones; it is inevitable that they will explore inappropriate content. Remember, if children are addicted to online games and chatting with friends for more than 2 hours a day, they can be considered addicted to the screen. If they spend hours searching for and watching sex movies, it is a very serious problem.

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