Bui Lan Huong talks for the first time about her famous boyfriend who she kept hidden for 4 years

- How have you been during this time of silence?

I am quite spontaneous and spontaneous. If I don't have a show, I like to go grocery shopping, cook, clean the house and then work in my home studio. In general, my life revolves around cleaning the house and music.

I like to cook Northern dishes such as braised fish, fake dog meat, fried spring rolls..., like to invite friends to my house to gather, cook and eat together. I want to try making banh chung but it seems not easy at all.

We have a maid but I like to do things myself, especially arranging and decorating the house to my liking. The maid cannot arrange flowers as well as I can.(laugh)

I am quite lazy to exercise and play sports. I have a private yoga teacher. When I have no work, she and I will practice at home for about an hour.

I don't drink or smoke. I'm pretty healthy except for my addiction to milk tea and staying up late because I have trouble sleeping.

Every evening, I usually spend time watching movies with my family after dinner. If I eat at a restaurant, I will take the opportunity to stroll around town.

I am not rich, and my material needs are not much. Generally, people only need a house to live in, a car to drive and a job to do. I do not need to wash the car twice or clean the house twice.

It seems like everything I do is geared towards music. For example, when I'm lying down on my phone shopping online, I'll think about buying stage clothes, what kind of lipstick is suitable for makeup when performing far away...

My only hobby besides music is reading comics before bed.

- Is that... BL, "The Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation"?

Oh no, “boys’ love” has appeared everywhere in my life, that’s enough. I read Dou Po Cang Qiong, Yao Shen Ji, Wu Lian Ding Feng, Douluo Continent… – fantasy, cultivation, urban series.

-Bui Lan Huongcold on stage but funny and cute in real life, has anyone told you this?

In art, I am strict with every gesture I make, unconsciously creating that expression on my face. On the contrary, in real life, I always want people around me to be happy. If it is too difficult, no one will want to live with you.

So work is work, private life is private life. When working, I require high concentration, do not accept "hi hi, ha ha" and then work goes nowhere.

- What are you insecure about?

Women should always have confidence in themselves. If you think you are ugly, everyone will think so too.

However, I have been gaining weight more easily recently, probably due to my age. My health is not good, I often get sick, sometimes have sinusitis… Do these things count as low self-esteem?

If I were still alive, I probably wouldn't be as beautiful or sing as well as the divas. I like the beauty of Ho Ngoc Ha, who looks beautiful in everything she does.

In this profession, 7 points is not enough, at least 8 points is enough to stand out. Therefore, I do not allow myself to be complacent and satisfied with what I have.

- You only appear when you have a product. Is that enough for an artist in the age of technology and social media?

That's my weakness. I know I should do more image work but my current self is not up to the task.

I did not accept to participate in game shows because I felt I was not entertaining enough, did not know how to be generous, and did not know how to harmonize the atmosphere with everyone.

As an artist, I often need my own space to nurture my inner self and creativity. So, although I really want to, I am not ready to open up and change myself. Perhaps the young people in the team will help me improve this part.

- If so, not taking advantage of the heat of a hundred billion movie, not inviting colleagues to the press conference to release a new product... is not "stupid", but you refuse to do it?

To be honest, I find it a bit too much and un-me if I try to do something to promote myself. I don’t want to bother my colleagues by sending them my new products, inviting them to press conferences; I don’t want to force them to praise my products in front of the press when I don’t really like them.

- Is the word “force” too strong, when they are part of the job?

Maybe my thinking is a bit old-fashioned. I am friendly but not easy to make new friends or ready to let someone into my life. This closedness is also evident in my music - rich in soul, directed inward. It seems that everyone has something that feels a bit wrong but does not want to change.

- Normally, people only refuse to have more when they are already full. Does love fill you up so much that you don't need someone else to enter your life?

I am happy and fulfilled. I appreciate love - the wonderful thing I have. I hope that this "long-overdue wonderful thing" will continue to bear sweet fruit.

- When did you know you loved him?

Love and happiness are things that cannot be described. Just like 4 years ago, I suddenly felt ups and downs, day and night missing you, that was love, that was it.

When I love, I am always fierce and devoted to that love. Of course, I love with all my heart so that he can feel it, not groveling and causing trouble for him.

I believe that when we are kind and give our all in love, the other person will respond with the same devotion.

At that time, even though love does not have a happy ending, it still does not hurt us, make us regretful or become distorted and ugly in each other's eyes.

- What is the experience of having a boyfriend like for you?

I have someone to share and confide in at night, someone I can talk to endlessly. We live close to each other so it’s easy to share many things. He works in the same industry but is much more famous than me.

I tell all the little things, big things, happy things but not the hardships. No one comes to you to be your trash can.

When two people always share, we are both lovers and friends. Love comes and goes quickly, family love stays with us for a long time.

So I like two adults who are independent in their lives and share the good things with each other. Making the other person responsible for their own life will destroy the purity of the couple's feelings.

- Love without responsibility, is it a bit… adventurous?

Responsibility is that we accept to change, to refine ourselves to be in harmony with the other person. It shows that we are conscious of preserving and nurturing this relationship together - something that is extremely important to both of us.

- "Intimacy", it sounds like the two of you have passed the initial romantic stage?

For me, love is always romantic, always in the beginning!(laugh)

- What parts of yourselves do you and he refine to be compatible with each other?

Not only in love but in every relationship, you have to put aside your ego to move towards the common good. Everyone has to learn that.

We are better and more mature than when we were single. Occasionally, he and I discover new things about each other.

We have lost some of the old ways of thinking and living. Therefore, the time we spend together is not short but always very pleasant.

- Men tend to be protective, letting their women depend on them, what about him?

He gave me his best. He was always there to listen, to lean on, but never prying or trying to control me.

I have my own space and the peace of mind that there is always a warm person behind me supporting me, and a safe place for me to return to.

- How much is the age gap between the two people?

That is a beautiful age gap, in the eyes of a lover! The age can be short or long, as long as it is the person, it will be beautiful. On the contrary, if it is someone else, even if it is the exact age, it may not be suitable.

- In short, it's fate, according to you?

Four years ago, we met and came together because of harmony. During the pandemic, we became each other's support and motivation to get through the most difficult and life-threatening period of our lives.

We have been together for many years now. Life has its ups and downs, going through all of them has helped me realize who I truly value. Therefore, we are more serious, nurturing our love so that it will soon bear fruit.

I am so lucky to have him - a kind, generous, forgiving and pleasant man. I could not ask for more.