Singer Maya: 'Trying to find the light to walk'

Singer Maya shares about being a single mother and her determination in life.

- During this time, do you prioritize your career or taking care of your daughter?

- I am now a single mother, with only two children, so having a career is even more important. I have to build a solid foundation for my child's future. I do this for my child. If I stay home and take care of my child, what will happen to both of us? Right now, this is the best option to ensure my child's future. Not being able to spend much time with my child, I also feel guilty towards Bo Cau, but only those in this situation know. I believe that when she grows up, she will understand. Right from birth, I felt that my child is independent and has personality, she will not be weak because of such things.

Maya shares her story of being a single mother for the first time with many feelings.

- What do you think when Bo Cau's father is not there when you need him?

- To me, it was a disappointment. I don't blame him because it was my choice and it was obvious that I had to face it. Of course, every decision will always have success or failure. If my life was too peaceful, there wouldn't be a brave and understanding Maya like now. Up until now, I've always been stable in life and always felt that everything comes and goes naturally, it's very normal. Saying that doesn't mean I'm heartless and don't think about that man, but I never let failures affect my personal life. I always think, I have to live well, I'm happy so my children will be happy. Instead of blaming myself or someone else, the time I spend with my children will be more useful.

- How do you intend to make it up to your daughter?

- A child without a father will be more sensitive and sometimes weaker. That's why I will do everything to make her feel fulfilled, independent and strong. I also promise myself that I will never love anyone more than my daughter.

- How much does Bo Cau's father support you in raising the child?

- This is a sensitive issue. I just want to say that as parents, we all love our children. Raising children based on material things is not the right measure. I have never thought that this is enough, that is right. For a child, only the unconditional love of parents is enough.

- When Bo Cau grows up, what will you tell her about her father?

- I will tell you, your mother alone cannot give birth to you. Therefore, whether your father is a successful or a failure, he still loves you completely. A father needs to receive respect from his daughter, that is why his mother must teach her about love, never speak ill of that man. If there is something unhappy between me and him, that is an adult's matter. I also cannot break or deny the bond between the child and his father.

I respect my child's right to decide, even if she grows up and wants to live with her father, I will agree. I choose for myself a life without burdens. Now Bo Cau's father and I still have a good relationship.

Singer Maya.

- How do you feel when other women are taken care of by their husbands while you have to leave your children at home to go to work?

- I feel tired of having to take care of everything by myself, from the children to family matters. Sometimes I feel sorry for myself, but thinking of Bo Cau, I just try my best. I always look at life with a positive eye, even if it is dark, I will try to find the light to move forward. Even if I am sad, life still goes on, so why should I sit there complaining?

- Do you find the saying "beauty has a tragic fate" similar or different to your case?

- I don't know. I think everyone's life is like a movie. There are movies that start beautifully but end sadly and vice versa. It's fate, unavoidable.

- Looking back at the past, do you think your decision to be with him was right or wrong?

- If you look at it from the perspective of finding a man to bring happiness, that decision was wrong. Even coming to him brought about many side issues that made me tired and unhappy. But looking at it from the perspective of being a mother and happy with my little daughter, it was the opposite. If I said something wrong, how would Bo Cau feel when she read this? So, whether right or wrong, it is the past, I only know that in the present I will live and do everything for my child.

When I become a mother, I see life more broadly and I will not waste my emotions on external things. I will devote that love to my child and build my new life. I believe that happiness is real, it is somewhere around here. If it hasn’t come yet, I will wait, tomorrow it will come. Look at me, I have the right to be happy like everyone else, right?

According to ngoisao.net