Choose a life worth living
(Baonghean.vn) - Around me, there are also many women, and of course, men, who marry someone whose reason for getting a marriage certificate is just because "I'm of age, my parents are urging me", "I'm too shy to love someone new".
My mother, probably like most mothers, often “threatens” her teenage daughters to “be smart or they will kick you out of the house when you get married.” As for me, since I was a child, I knew for sure that I would never be in that situation. It’s not that I was smart enough to please anyone, but because I knew for sure that I would never marry someone like that, someone who was not “suitable” for me in many ways.
Later, when I got married, I sometimes heard someone say that I was so lucky to marry the person I loved, I was so lucky to marry someone who was like-minded. Maybe people had a wrong perspective on the issue. Isn't "marriage" defined as a lifelong partnership with the person you love, the person you are compatible with? So if someone meets someone they are not really attached to, don't really feel in sync with, why do they still choose to tie their life with that person? I'm probably not the only one who thinks about this question. Around me, there are many girlfriends who have gone through at least 3 failed relationships with bad guys. But then they quickly date someone else with all the other bad signs, and what's left is an unhealthy breakup and unforgettable pain. Around me, there are also many women, and of course, men, who marry someone whose reason for getting a marriage certificate is just because "I'm of age, my parents are urging me to", "I'm too shy to love someone new", "Maybe after getting married, he/she will change for the better". Not surprisingly, that marriage soon falls into the rut of a dry, boring, even tiring relationship.
In the popular teen psychology book The Perk of Being a Wallflower, a young man named Sam asks his psychology teacher, “Why do people choose to date someone who treats them so badly?” The teacher’s answer became a famous quote that is quoted all over social media: “We accept the relationship we think we deserve.”
I, since I grew up, have been aware of my own value, I understand that I deserve someone who is as proud and respectful of others as I am. If in the short time of my youth, I do not meet anyone suitable enough for me, I am willing to enjoy life alone to the fullest. Some others do not, they are afraid of loneliness, afraid of heavy social pressure. They easily accept a "relatively" love affair, that is, a relationship that is pleasant in some aspects and regardless of all other unpleasant aspects. Sometimes they hesitate to reject a bad person with the thought "maybe I will not meet anyone better".
I believe in the philosophy of “You Can Choose Your Life”. You can choose your life. You can choose to live a fulfilling life, without toxic relationships, doing the work you want, always surrounded by sincere and kind people. You can also choose to live a broken life, meet superficial people, accept values that are not compatible with who you are and forget how to pursue your passionate passions. It is all in each person’s hands, the only question is whether you consider yourself worthy or not.
