Husband lied about going to play sports to date...

He denied the affair, saying it was just a joke. When he was at a loss for words, he said it was because I was selfish and not welcoming when he went out to play sports.

My husband is a sports enthusiast, he plays until 7pm after work. Because my job only works office hours, I have time for my family and children. Moreover, I think my husband plays sports to stay healthy, so I don't say much. Sometimes when my child is sick or busy and I can't call him, I tell him, but he doesn't change. Life went on like that until one day, more than a year ago, I received a phone call from a stranger saying that he was seeing a woman (who played sports with me) who was married. I was shocked, I went through the vague premonitions I had, combined with the messages still saved in my phone and the frequent calls in my husband's diary to verify the information, then I was 90% sure that he was cheating on his wife and children.

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I talked frankly with my husband but he denied it, saying that it was just a joke. When he was at a loss for words, he said that it was because I was selfish and not welcoming when he came home late from playing sports; in short, he blamed me and that I had to find someone to confide in. I was bitter to the core, just because I thought he worked harder so I spent time playing sports while I took care of all the family and children; and today he slapped me right in the face with those words. Moreover, it has been more than a year since then but he still shows no desire to change.

After that, both families knew. At first, his mother spoke up to support me, but then she compromised, telling me to calm down and endure... I wanted to get out of this marriage, but I wasn't brave enough because I still had children. My husband and I have been living apart for several months now, family life is suffocating and stressful because no one says a word to each other. My daughter is about to take the high school entrance exam, I'm afraid that the decision to divorce at this time will be a big shock that will affect her future. But my current way of doing things is to stay silent, maintaining the existence of the family, is that a good solution for my child? As for me, right now I really want to scream, throw everything out, break the shell of this orderly, happy family. I really don't know what to do, please give me some advice.

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