Cong Ly: 'I will marry my girlfriend at the right time'

After two failed marriages, the actress still believes in marriage but has no plans to get married again.

- You made public your relationship with your girlfriend, who is 15 years younger, at the end of 2016. After being together for a while, what are your plans for the future?

- Actually, Ngoc Ha and I loved each other before that. However, we chose to remain silent to understand each other better. In early October last year, she and I had no more problems, so we freely shared about each other on our personal pages. We planned to get married, however, since it was called a plan, we cannot say exactly. When the right time comes, I will hold a wedding. Many friends say I will get married at the end of the year, however, it is all just a rumor.

I am more mature now, so my behavior and love life are more calm and composed. I never feel bad about having gone through so many broken relationships that I am forced to choose this or that person. I just let nature take its course. Right now, we are extremely happy.

Artist Cong Ly and his girlfriend Ngoc Ha (left).

* Actor Cong Ly in the movie "Living with mother-in-law"

- How did you and your girlfriend meet?

- In early 2015, my friend - director Binh Trong - held a press conference for the Tet comedy film Dai gia chan dat, Lang e vo. Mr. Trong invited me to join in the fun. After the press conference, Ngoc Ha contacted me and asked to interview me, at that time, I just knew she was a reporter.

After getting to know each other, she and I gradually developed feelings for each other. I don't know who initiated the relationship first. Everything came naturally. I really don't know what I like about Ngoc Ha. I think all people in love have the same feeling. They don't know exactly why they fall in love with each other. I think that's true love, without calculation. Later, I appreciate Ngoc Ha more because she is childish, innocent, and kind.

- You are an experienced man, while your girlfriend is young. How do you love her?

- I am not a tactful, gallant person, so I rarely say sweet words or do romantic things. I do not like to express my feelings with flowery words. I just silently follow and do what I can for the other person. Not only with my lover, with my children and relatives, I also love in such a silent way.

"Dau" Cong Ly sings Bolero with "Nam Tao" Xuan Bac

- How do you two share your work?

- Before she fell in love with me, she admitted that she never watched any of the plays or TV series I acted in. But now, whenever she has free time, she comes to my office - Hanoi Drama Theater. She follows all the new plays. Ngoc Ha is quite close to many of the artists in the theater. Occasionally, she even goes on tour with the troupe to faraway provinces like Nghe An, Thai Nguyen... She is friendly and approachable, so most of my friends and colleagues support her.

Ngoc Ha is a cultural reporter, so sometimes I also advise her on some professional issues.

Ngoc Ha is close to Thao Van (right) - Cong Ly's ex-wife - at an event.

- How do you balance the relationship between your new girlfriend and your two ex-wives and stepchildren?

- I cannot and have no right to interfere in their relationship. It is up to them to be aware of right and wrong. In my opinion, that is how civilized people behave.I never told Ngoc Ha things like "You have to talk to Thao Van", "You have to love Tit". Ha loves and respects me and my past. She understands that being jealous of an ex is stupid.

Thao Van, Khue - my first wife - and I do not need to do ideological work for our children. We cannot force them to love someone. Children are very sensitive, if someone is truly good to them, they will love them back.

Sometimes, I take my eldest daughter - Kien - and youngest son - Tit - out to eat. I invite Ha and Van to come along, and they never object. When we get there, everyone eats and chats happily. We are all friends.

Furthermore, I put the goal of raising and caring for my children first. Therefore, only those who respect that goal can be on the same path as me. I do not have to try or force myself. I also consider myself lucky to have such good relationships. In many other cases, they do not hate or envy each other, but simply do not like each other, do not want to sit together, which is tiring enough.

According to VNE