'Forcing children to study a lot is parents falling into the trap of lazy teachers'

"Just a few comments from the teacher like "You write slowly" or "You study worse than your friends" can make parents panic and teach their children to exhaustion," Dr. Vu Thu Huong wrote.

Faced with the situation where many parents and children are tired because their children have too much homework, and even after 10pm, parents still sit with their children to do homework, Dr. Vu Thu Huong, lecturer at the Faculty of Primary Education, Hanoi National University of Education, tried to find the cause of the problem. According to the doctor, it is the lazy teacher and the achievement-oriented parents.On her personal page, she wrote about this issue:

Because of the fear that their children will be inferior to their friends and want their children to be good, parents have fallen into the trap of lazy teachers. Just a few comments from the teacher: "Your child is not as good as his friends", "Your writing is slow", ... "I suggest that the family tutor your child" and parents are in a panic, staying up all night to teach their children until they are exhausted.

If parents know the program and goals clearly, it is not difficult to know whether their child can learn or not. If the child is slow in development and cannot keep up, then it is okay to let the child repeat the year. If the child is not slow and can still keep up, then parents do not need to be afraid of the teacher and obey her every command.

I know there are some teachers who are extremely lazy. Instead of teaching your children, they just give them homework and "throw" a few words of criticism at their children's parents and that's it. Tutoring, extra classes, homeschooling, forcing children to study... all possible forms will be used by parents to force their children to study. The teacher's job is to criticize, the parents' job is to rush to do it for her. Then the parents get frustrated.

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I think it is important that parents know a little about education.The goals of first grade are very simple: read and write fairly well, and add and subtract within 100.The primary school program is a universal program, all regions can learn it and it is repeated, not today's lesson that will never be learned again.

Therefore, parents should not let teachers use their fears to force their children. In cases where they receive the comment "Parents, please teach your child extra...", parents should go to the school and tell the teacher clearly: "The family is not responsible for teaching Math, Vietnamese... to the child, nor do they have the conditions to teach. I sympathize."

Parents can give various excuses such as being busy, having few family members, parents being stupid... so that the teacher cannot assign homework for parents to do with their children. If they do, they should only give the children 30 minutes to do it. It's okay if they haven't finished, if the teacher scolds them, the children will listen, and next time they will study more focused.

If after 30 minutes of speed work your child still can't finish, stop and tell the teacher, "He's slow, don't give him any more, he can't finish it all." If necessary, parents can show the teacher the policy of the Ministry of Education and Training - students who study all day at school are not given homework.

Weak parents make their children suffer. That's why I say: Parents are their children's fate. Parents, pay attention!

According to VNE