Smile, give and forgive

The young woman suspected her husband of having an affair,Because all day he was busy with business and partying with partners, he had little time to care for her.In her frustration and confusion, she found the most comforting answer when talking to her father.

- My husband doesn't come home tonight, what should I do?

- You don't need to care, nor do you need to ask. Your husband is an adult, he can control his own actions. As long as he doesn't drive while drunk, I believe he will have a safe place to stay.

- If he is with someone else, what should I do?

- You don't need to care, nor ask - Her father said slowly.

- But that will hurt you, you will feel very sad and angry.

- It is wrong for you to be angry or sad. Because you see your husband as your own possession, not allowing him to share it with others, you are sad. Because you are not good enough or he temporarily lost his mind, he went looking for someone else and was cold towards you, that made you angry.

- So what should I do?

- It's still the same thing I told you, you don't need to care at all, nor do you need to ask. You don't even need to be sad or angry, just pretend nothing ever happened.

- But I can't do that.

- You can not do it, it proves that you have lost yourself.

The girl was surprised: What does that mean?

- Your husband is not your whole life. When your husband has an affair, you immediately don't want to eat, don't want to drink and don't want to live, so are you still yourself?

- So what should I do?

- It's very simple, eat what you want, wear what you want, go where you want, do what you want, don't neglect other things because of that. In short, make your life more meaningful, because you weren't born for him, and you don't live for him.

- But if so, what is the meaning of marriage? Father.

- Of course it is meaningful, because the meaning of marriage is not something that can be measured, in each stage of life, the meaning of marriage is also different.

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- I don't understand.

- Marriage in each stage of life has at least 4 different meanings:

One is the meaning of the process, when people reach a certain age, they need to go to this step. Two is to continue the next generations, so people cannot help but get married. Three is the economic meaning, when husband and wife live together, they will help each other to make life better. Four is when their hair turns white and their teeth fall out, then they will understand the important meaning of marriage.

- But what you said has nothing to do with your husband's affair.

- It is very relevant, as long as your husband does not ask for a divorce because of adultery, your marriage can still be good. The four important meanings of marriage are still present in your married life. So what do you have to be sad or angry about?

- But maybe he treats that girl better than me.

- It's just temporary, he can't be with that girl for the rest of his life, he can't have an affair for the rest of his life. As long as he doesn't say goodbye to you, it proves that he considers you the place he will be with for the rest of his life, the place he will eventually have to return to, the place he considers his home.

Smile, give and forgive!

Thu Tra(synthetic)