Learn how to praise your child from the mother of 'child prodigy' Do Nhat Nam

Ms. Phan Ho Diep - the mother who is considered very successful in educating the "child prodigy" Do Nhat Nam, always focuses on encouraging her child. She has 5 principles of praising her child so that Nhat Nam can be happy but still know how to be humble and continue to try.

The first principle is "don't praise the product but praise the process". For example, Ms. Diep often praises her child for "trying very hard, I even saw Nam sweating while doing his homework". The "prodigy" mother believes that praising the process will help children understand that their efforts when doing something are what people pay the most attention to, observe and evaluate. With other tasks, children will pay more attention and continue to try much harder to be recognized and praised by adults.

The second principle is "do not compare your child with other people's children, but only compare them with your own child in a positive way." For example, if your child could not do this yesterday, but can do it today, that is a great thing. According to Ms. Phan Ho Diep, children have an invisible but scary enemy: "other people's children." When parents often compare their children with other children, it can make them feel inferior and jealous. "Parents should never compare their children with other people's children, limit the use of derogatory words, especially do not criticize your children in front of a crowd," Ms. Diep shared.

The third principle is not to emphasize the child's qualities and praise them like: "How smart, how wonderful..." The reason given by Ms. Diep is that not all children are good and smart, so if they are praised a lot for these qualities, when they are born, they may find the compliments contrary to reality and be disappointed in themselves. The way Do Nhat Nam's mother does it is to praise her state of mind like: "Nam can do this, I am very happy, proud, happy...".

The fourth principle is to pay attention to praising even things your child doesn't notice. "Children are often extremely happy about this," said Ms. Phan Ho Diep, who analyzed that praising children even for things they unintentionally do, such as "giving toys to friends" will help them understand that all the work they do is actually being observed by their mother. From then on, children will try to do these things better.

The fifth principle is to convey other people's compliments to children. Ms. Diep believes that this makes the compliments seem more objective. She also often applies the learning principle in the book Japanese Parents Inspire Their Children with Nhat Nam and finds it effective. For example, she often tells Nam the compliments of her neighbor: he praises Nam for knowing how to greet and ask everyone after coming home from school. This method makes Nam happy and in the following days always greets everyone when coming home from school.

According to VNE