Khanh Ly: Why did you cry during your 4 births?

The famous singer sadly said that during her four births, she only had friends to help her, while her husband was busy with work, and some went gambling.

Despite suffering from sciatica for the past three years, Khanh Ly still returned to Vietnam this time to perform a series of concerts celebrating 55 years of singing in Hanoi, Hue, Da Nang, Nha Trang, Buon Me Thuot, Can Tho and Saigon. The famous singer said that at the age of 73, she did not know when she would pass away, so while she still had passion and wanted to sing, she had to do it right away. "What if one day I woke up and lost my voice? I dare not make any promises and when I can do something, I do it right away because I don't have time to regret. I would be heartbroken if I had to say 'if only', 'if only'..." Also because Khanh Ly's health was poor, her daughter was very worried and even did not agree to let her mother return to Vietnam to perform. However, singer Quang Thanh always followed to take care of her, so the famous singer's daughter was reassured.

Since her husband (journalist Hoang Doan) passed away, Khanh Ly has been living with her third daughter. She said that luckily her 44-year-old daughter is not married and has few friends, so she lives with her mother. In the eyes of the famous singer, her daughter is no different from her 'husband' because she often reminds her to eat, take medicine, and inject diabetes medication on time. "My daughter scolds me a lot, but arguing with her is also fun. Once she reacted to my mother's friends because she thought they were taking advantage of me. Even though I knew she was right, I still tried to protect my friend and my honor. Therefore, the two of them got angry with each other. But even though I was angry, I was still the number 1 maid, cooking, cleaning the house, and doing the laundry for her," Khanh Ly said with a smile.

At the age of 73, Khanh Ly still longs to sing and meet fans.

The female singer has four children, the first two of which are the result of her first marriage, and her third daughter is the fruit of her second marriage. With her third husband, journalist Hoang Doan, they have a son together. When asked why she did not let her children follow in her footsteps, the female singer shook her head and said that she had never encouraged her children to pursue an artistic career. The reason Khanh Ly gave was: "I know very well how treacherous, bitter, and deceitful this profession is. My children, all of them can sing, but I advise them to study. My time is over, if my children enter this profession, if they are unlucky, who will help them? I have had too much, so luck will not fall on my children's heads, only misfortune. At that time, what will I do for my children? So it's best to just be an ordinary person because 'tall trees have wind, deep rivers have storms', and grass, even if burned, will still grow back. Just cut the grass, cut the rocks so that future generations will need each other".

Although she loves her children very much, Khanh Ly does not know exactly what they do for a living. Once, the singer's youngest son announced that he had quit his job at Apple and moved to a new company. Khanh Ly wondered and her son explained that the new company paid him less but in return, he had more time to take care of his family. "I was so happy to hear that because if I kept working and not being with my children, it would be a pity. I already felt sorry for myself, so I don't want my grandchildren to be like that. My children only need to earn enough to eat to be happy. Being a tycoon is not necessarily happy," Khanh Ly said. The singer also expressed that as a mother, she never interferes in their lives or imposes on them. What to do, who to love, who to marry is their right. "I only give my children health, a life without gambling, drugs, or gangs. I don't need my children to be any kind of grandfather or grandmother, they just need to live decently."

Except for her daughter who lives with Khanh Ly, her three other children all have stable lives with their own families. However, her two older children rarely visit their mother. Therefore, she does not have the opportunity to be close to her grandchildren. When asked if Khanh Ly was sad because of the lack of attention from her two older children, she shook her head because she thought that this was understandable given the living environment in the US. However, the famous singer also admitted that she could not keep her two older children because both were closer to her paternal family. She sadly said: "I accept that because it is entirely my fault. There were times when I could not be close to my children because I had to work hard to make a living."

Since her husband passed away, the female singer has lived with her third daughter.

Talking about her youngest son, Khanh Ly revealed that he married a Korean woman who is very gentle. Because she loves her daughter-in-law, she often scolds her son and advises him to speak gently to his wife. She believes: "Women do not expect anything from their husbands when they are young, they just hope that when they are old they will have a shoulder to lean on. Therefore, husband and wife should rely on each other to live, do not leave each other because of money. I see many people divorce because they say they are not compatible, but I think, there is nothing incompatible, it is easy."

Recalling the past of giving birth four times, the famous singer could not hide her sadness. She said that all four times she gave birth, she went alone. Raising her children was the same, she raised them all by herself without any help from her husband. "Every time I gave birth, I cried. When I wrote this in my autobiography, the audience sent letters saying that they felt sorry for me. But I thought, it was my fault, I didn't know who to blame. When I gave birth to my third child, I only had my girlfriend by my side while my husband went gambling. With Mr. Hoang Doan (my third husband), I had to have a cesarean section while he was working for the newspaper, he even went to his friend's house to eat before going to the hospital to visit his wife. Even with my first husband, I didn't know where they were when I gave birth. I just got pregnant and gave birth. Life is like that, no one dies because of this. If you don't have food, you die, but if you give birth, you don't have a husband, that's fine," she confided.

Looking back on her turbulent life, Khanh Ly admits that she is a person who only cares about her husband and children. She does not think about herself but always wants her husband and children to enjoy the 'happiest' things. Whatever her husband likes to eat, she will cook, whatever he likes, she will automatically buy. Her children are the same, whatever they like, they will have it. Khanh Ly confided: "I only have that many children. Now I still have the health to work, and the ability to take care of my children. If I am no longer here, who will take care of my children? Many times Quang Thanh advised, 'Sister, live for yourself, your children are all grown up', but I said no, because I am used to it. My happiness and sadness follow my husband and children. A woman's most precious asset is her children. Sometimes I also want to be beautiful, want to be happy, but I have to forget myself to take care of my children. At this age, I have enjoyed everything in my life, so there is nothing I regret or wish for myself anymore".

According to ngoisao.net